Male Menopause

I am convinced my hubby is not well. He wants to divorce me after 27 years together, 24 years married. He says he doesn't love me anymore - I and everybody that knows us thought we had the perfect marriage. It seemed to start about 5 years ago - he was always very shy of women but started to encourage their attentions - we work in the leisure industry, so meet a lot of the opposite sex in our day to day work - also he started having massive and sudden mood swings, changed his sexual habits and lately has shown violent tendencies. He had been the most caring, honourable person on this planet, but now is a very mean and hurtful person. Has anyone out there had a similar experience and found anyone or anything that can help? We are now at the stage that he is completing the financial form to go along with the divorce petition that his solicitors have prepared. I just don't know where to turn for help.

Hi and welcome to Wikivorce

This must be very painful for you and you are probably still in shock, but your husband seems to have decided he wants a divorce and there is not much you can do about that unfortunately.

Only one person needs to end a marriage - to keep it going requires two people. So often one person has moved on emotionally before the other partner is aware there is a problem.

In my case, ex and I had been together 31 years, 18 married. He became very angry and bad tempered which I put down to stress of his job. Turns out he was having an affair and he moved out a year ago to live with his new woman. I am still getting over that.

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Nell

Hi and Welcome Luls,

Maybe he is having an affair but equally have you looked at other possibilities? Such as recreational drugs etc ... the mood changes and things could be down to anyone of many things.

Deep down though you will know in your gut what is really going on and if your really worried about things then sit him down in a good mood and ask him outright ... he may not admit it, but you should know from his behaviour at being asked what's really going on.

Hope it helps
Take Care
Mark

I'm so sorry you are going through this.