Dad of 4 being shown the door

I agree with the other advice you've had and feel you really must stay in the house, you have every right to. Perhaps you can set up some demarcation or boundaries as you are now separated under the same roof, to give yourself some necessary 'space.'

I used to make the most of the time at home with my son when my ex was at work or away on business, shift gear mentally in the evenings or when he got backfrom his trips, and basically just keep the peace. It was hard, but preferable to disrupting the whole family by acting in haste, and besides I had nowhere to go.

I also refused to cave in to his bullying and insistence we would do the financials his way, which meant his version of fair. It has been hard, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. In my case I was the one who wanted the separation, and he was not at all reasonable, the way you sound. But don't give way all the time, you have rights too. I'm glad you found some legal advice.

Come into chat when you feel you want to let off steam, it's a great escape when the other spouse is giving you a hard time, and it might take your mind off your wife's very inconsiderate texting. You are worth more, and you can rise above this eventually ... I found I had to be patient with myself, and above all not to 'carry the can' or to try to think I could have done more, or done things differently. It's just the way it is, and you will get through this, we all do if we give it time.

Take care,
Mneme