Hello all...

Hello Everyone,

I'm new here, so bear with me please

We live in North London, been married three years, this last year things have been very stressed, I got promoted with a substantial payrise, she lost her job.

It hit her hard, but even though I now earned enough for both of us, there were issues. I hardly went out, she didn't want to anyway.

Life, in effect, ground to a halt.

She's still unemployed, and it's not looking good for getting a new job.

I've paid for everything from day one, she kept her own money.

Now she wants to call it a day. To be honest, I was relieved and agreed.

Now she wants her "fair share" of everything.

To quote the old song "there may be trouble ahead"

Hallo Holloway (my grandmother was born in Holloway)

Sounds as though your wife is depressed about being unemployed. It can affect you so much as many people's self-esteem is tied up with their job.

Have either of you thought of counselling? Maybe your marriage can be salvaged. You've only been married 3 years.

NellNoRegrets wrote:

Hallo Holloway (my grandmother was born in Holloway)

Sounds as though your wife is depressed about being unemployed. It can affect you so much as many people's self-esteem is tied up with their job.

Have either of you thought of counselling? Maybe your marriage can be salvaged. You've only been married 3 years.

Hi Nell, Holloway is some place, though it has changed quite a bit over the last few years.

She probably is a bit depressed but I got a 20k pay rise, which more than made up her 15k p/a job. I give her the money she's not making, but I do understand that she'd prefer to be making her own.

TBH, I've had enough. I've tried and tried, a friend even offered her part time bar work to get her out of the house, in a fairly decent pub as well, but no, that wouldn't do.

As I said in another post, I want to stay put, I like it here, I have lots of friends here, and I really like the house that was bought with my equity from the last place.

Counselling is not an option as I'm not the kind of guy who would sit in front of a stranger and open up. I'm quite a private person. None of my friends know about what is going on.

So it's going to be a long slippery road ahead

A 20k payrise.
Hmm thats some job!
Is this the same partner that is a model that you were talking about on another thread?

Lucretia wrote:

A 20k payrise.
Hmm thats some job!
Is this the same partner that is a model that you were talking about on another thread?

Hi Lucretia,

It was some payrise, I almost doubled my salary, but along with it went a shed load more of responsibility and 200 staff to look after, and I'm still doing the job, so the company must think I'm doing something right

And no, wifey isn't the same as the model g/f, model and I were were quite a few years ago

Holloway wrote:

Lucretia wrote:

A 20k payrise.
Hmm thats some job!
Is this the same partner that is a model that you were talking about on another thread?

Hi Lucretia,

It was some payrise, I almost doubled my salary, but along with it went a shed load more of responsibility and 200 staff to look after, and I'm still doing the job, so the company must think I'm doing something right

And no, wifey isn't the same as the model g/f, model and I were were quite a few years ago

OMG!!!

*says nothing else*...

BTW, Model is still one of my closest friends, and her current fella is a great guy. Him and I actually go out on the beer. He knows how close we are, but thankfully he is ok with it.