nasty man

Hi everyone. This is my first time here and I am looking for a little advice if anyone can offer.
My problem started when my husband took a fancy to my best friend (and her him)from school when we were all on a family holiday.
We were having what i thought was a great time me him and the kids then her family. I asked him a couple of times if anything was going on but guess what he told me not to be stupid. When we all got back one night I woke during the early hours of the morning and heard him declaring his love to her whilst he was sat on the back doorstep. I kicked him out listened to all his sorrys and took him back. I found out 9 - 10 months later that he had carried on the affair, again i took him back (what a fool). We moved home as I didnt want her knowing where we were or trying to contact us. I was so hurt and it was starting to affect out children. We had some other friends that lived near us in our new home. Then one night when I was in bed and the kids were asleep he got caught with our friend by her husband. My husband informed me it was only a kiss and that i shouldn't get upset about it as it meant nothing. This was last March. I told him the marraige was over last July and he refussed to move out so i had to with the kids in october last year. Since he has made my life hell my daughter has moved back in with him cause of his bribing with money, he tries with our son. He isolated me from my only family member I have had abuse off his mother and father accusing me of stopping them seeing my children which I never have and never would. To be honest at this moment in time I am at rock bottom as I am struggling with the cost of just getting through the week and the emotional roller coaster, it feels like it will never end and my life will never get back on track again.

of course you are feeling low - your husband has deceived you and you are coping with the loss of him and your marriage and the future you thought you had.

Well done for taking the courage to end it.

I guess the next step is to divorce, which will enable you to draw a line under this, and sort out the money etc.

You will find plenty of help with the practical and emotional steps on this site.

You can start a blog, post questions on the forums and pop into chat for instant support, as well as using the resources here.

Nell

what is is with these dorks..... walking away from women/men who would stand by their man/woman?

losers

post as much as you can talking to others helps

all the best

Hi 101 and welcome to wikivorce

This is a huge support comnumity and we have many resources at our disposal. I would stringly suggest that you read through the forum and pop into chat - to find your feet.

When you are clear about what your questions are, post them in a thread on the forum boards. You are sure to get a good response.

Shezi

thanks everyone it means a lot x