Looking For Advice!

Hi there. I am new to this site and was really looking for any advice with how to cope with divorce. I have been separated from my wife for just over a year and am in the middle of divorce proceedings. It was a combination of problems and issues on both sides, but even now I solely blame myself and I do still miss her to a certain extent. However, I am trying to busy myself doing everything that I didn't and maybe should have done when I was still with my wife. I have done so much in a year to change, losing a large amount of weight, meeting old and new friends, taking up new interests etc, but it still doesn't make me happy. My situation isn't great as I have had to move back in with the folks and am also in the process of selling my house, meaning that I am stuck in my current situation until the divorce and house sale is completed. Any help on different things people have done to get by would be great.

hallo Buzz

My ex and I separated last year. I took anti-depressants, went to see a counsellor once a week, contacted all my old friends and arranged to see as many as possible, joined a book club and a film club.

I also took advice from my Mum - plan so that you always have something pleasant to look forward to and never refuse an invitation.

Pop into chat for instant support. And stop blaming yourself.

Nell

Hi Nell

Thanks for your advice, much appreciated. I have also seen a counsellor for the last year, which has been a big help.I didn't want to go down the anti-depressants route. Like yourself, I joined some clubs and got myself out and about. I am also in the process of setting up my photography business. It's just been the year anniversary of when we split up.I guess it's only now that I have had any real time to truly reflect on what happened because I have kept myself so busy and I feel a bit angry and lost. Will take your advice about not turning down an invitation (money permitting!)as have done too much of that lately.

I have just been to a wedding where it seemed as though everyone was settled and in a couple (probably not the case!) so that's probably not helped my mood!

Am sure things will get better!


Thanks again