HI

Thank you - i am at the stage of not knowing what else to do or where to turn. i've not been to Gp and am paying but it does seem expensive but like you - try anything - to help taking the pain away. I don't want ads either.

Here's to it working and the pain going away but I have a feeling i have a load more to go through.

Hello

Before my husband left 13 months ago, people would have told you I was a strong, confident and self assured person. I have had NHS counselling and telephone counselling - both of which have been utterly ineffective. However, I have had several supportive chats with my health visitor and GP and everytime I have plummeted it has been due to coming off ADs. I must stress, it is so important not to consider taking ADs as a weakness. I too thought this way but with ADs I am able to return to some sort of semblance of the person I was.

I would encourage everybody to see their GP if appropriate and not to shy away from ADs if need be.

Its a long uphill road but the climb gets easier.

Much love

Katie

HI Katie

actually asked for counselling recently because i went down the road of ad's about 6 months ago and they weren't for me. i asked for the lowest dose of the weakest tablets and after about a week or two i had to stop taking them because i was totally off my face! wasn't compatible with my job (i'm an electrician) and can't take a chance just in case.

i do feel they are right for some people because i've got friends who they have worked for. I'll try the counselling for now but fear it's just gonna be long hard lonely fight.

I'm sure it will get easier but when you're still caught up in it it's hard to see when?

thanks anyway katie xx

Hi - Just read your posts and if you read my post on 'life after divorce' you'll see what I went through.
All i'd say here - is I went on AD's when ex walked out, and came off them after about 9 months. They did help me cope as I was bringing up a 2 and a 4 year old, working and trying to keep sane whilst going through a very acrimonious divorce. When I came off them however - the feelings were all there and started to come out then. So a few months later I went back on them, and was on them for a year that time. I came off them, as time had passed and things were getting easier, but the feelings were still there and I could feel myself getting lower and lower. So I sought counselling ( had had it on and off previously, but not for any length of time). Now I see someone once a fortnight, I don't need tablets, and I feel at last I'm ok and can cope with life without needing any medication. I don't feel down, though I do have moments, but thats all they are now. My advice - AD's ok as a short term thing, but counselling better for the long term. When I was on AD's I was ok, but my judgements were very different to normal, and all the feelings I had inside, were just being masked.
Everyone's different, as you know, but I think you'll be ok - will just take time. I'm almost nearly 3 years down the line now, and I feel its taken me this long to feel ok about life again!
Take care
Sue184