Hi

Hi.

I am 52 years old from Northern Ireland, going through the initial stages and heartbreak of a seperation from my wife (of 28 yrs)and best friend of 30 years.

I noticed a cooling in her manner towards me some months ago whicg got more noticeable as the weeks went by. She stopped telling me she loved me and then a couple of weeks ago started avoiding kisses.

Last Tuesday night I asked what was wrong, she told me she did not love me any more and wanted a seperation, it was like being hit by an express train, I cried all night and most of the next day and have not really stopped crying since.

Things are moving on apace, she has had estate agents out valuing the house and been to a solicitor today to instigate the seperation order, she wants the house sold and the proceeds split 50/50 along with all the money in the bank accounts.

She has also made plans to move out after our youngest daughter returns to university in England next month, I am really dreading that now.

She has always been very good to me, looked after me through major surgery 10 years ago, I thought I was good to her, though I admit I do have faults, the thing is she still cannot or won't tell me why.

I am totally devastated, cannot sleep and it is affecting my work, we have been so happy all our married lives with two wonderful daughters, the house of our dreams, living in an idyllic village , this does not seem real, it is like living a nightmare.

Hi

Sorry to hear this, I too am in the same position as you. Same age,21 year marriage. My husband walked out three weeks ago, told me had met someone else he wanted to be with. I feel exactly as you do. Lucky you have found wiki, some lovely people here with good advice. Hopefully in time we both will come to terms with this but I feel it is a long way in the future.

Take care they say time heals I certainly hope so.

(((David46)))

I feel for you. I know what you are going through. I was married for 31 years. Find myself at 51 years old thrown aside for the 'love of his life'.

The experts say that it takes one month for every year of marriage to recover from the breakdown - so for me only 15 months left to go - bring it on!!!

Sorry to say, but you have tough times ahead of you. You will find your inner strength. Take care of yourself.