divorce

hi evey one, new to this site looking for advice and support.not very good with this computor. my marrige of 30 ys ending.husband had affair last yr, tried to mske it work but its not happening.like to hear from others going through this too need friends to support me. thanks:silly:

Hi Suzi, welcome to wiki. Fairly new hear myself, stumbled across site looking for some advice a few weeks ago. You've come to thr right place if you want support and the advice you can get here is great.
My first marriage started to unravel several years ago now, in similar circumstances to yours and there are plenty of other wikipeeps been thru the same thing. Wish I'd found this site then as it would have been a great support and would probably saved me a small fortune in legal fees. Help is here just to offload and chat to folk but also if you need advice about how to go about things, just ask and someone will be able to help.

Janey:)

Hi,
I am 2 years after discovering affair and still find difficulty accepting betrayal of whole family.
Only just starting the divorce and financial settlement and very worried about finacial future and future home. Worries he doesn't have.
Also hate seeing the kids so hurt, they are all over 18 (only one at home now) but all 3 rocked by it.
Good to be able to go online when unable to sleep!
Things that help:
Taking care of yourself, taking positive action (I changed my job, went to nightschool, did a year at uni) whatever is interesting and new - could be anything!Fresh air and exercise - even a walk in the park all helps to lift your mood and makes things more bearable. I found doing a bit of voluntary work rewarding too.
In the end we are better people and have different values and really are better off without them. I could not accept a relationship without trust and respect.
Good luck

I could not accept a relationship without trust and respect.

amen to that

Hallo and welcome.

I've been separated a year since my ex moved to live with someone else after we had been together 31 years (18 married).

Went to hell and back, on anti-depressants, months of counselling etc, but am fine now, thanks to my friends and work colleagues and my lovely sons.

This site also helped -
you can post your own blog, or start a thread on any forum to ask questions or express ideas.
You can also pop into the chat room for instant talk with friendly supportive peeps.

There are also meetings you can go to - check the events page.

Nell

I am new to the site too. I wish I had found it before!
I was with my husband for 19 years (married for 18) and I have found it hard. We separated 2 years ago after I discovered his affair, it was a total shock. I am 52 and facing taking on a mortgage if possible and at the moment I have 3 jobs. I imagine it is even harder when you have been together as long as you have.
It gets less awful as I am sure you have already found, hang on to that and enjoy any happy or peaceful moments which will increase.
Look after yourself!