My story

Hi,

Just wanted to introduce myself and see if anyone else is in a similar situation, or can offer any advice.

My husband and I were married five years ago, having lived together for four years previously. Before this, he was renting a room in a house and I was paying a mortgage on this house, which I'd had for seven years. Two years before our marriage, my grandmother sadly died; she left me enough money to pay off my mortgage. We took out a home improvement loan after we were married, he carried out a small amount of the work and we made the repayments together, until he moved out at my request after two years of marriage. I'd started an ISA with the remainder of my inheritance, which I then used to pay off the rest of the loan (there was some money left over, which went into the joint account). We had agreed to a "quickie" divorce after two years of separation, but then I received a very formal email saying that he'd taken legal advice and believes he is entitled to 50% of my assets, although he would settle for 30% and I could have 50% of his assets, which as far as I know is next to nothing. Before, during and after the marriage, his earnings were double mine. He is self-employed, eight years younger than me and in good health. I have a fairly low-paying job and have been on medication for depression for about six years. The house and bills have always been in my name, although I have just received a B94-1 notice from him which prevents me from remortgaging or selling my house before the divorce. Obviously I don't want to go down the costly court route, but I am seeing a solicitor to clarify my situation and find out what would be a reasonable settlement.

That's it in a nutshell - I'm not ready to deal with my emotions yet, but there'll be another blog when I am!

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

I hope someone can help with finances. It would be easier and cheaper for you both to agree wiyhout going to court but your ex might well consider it worth the risk. It isn't about him getting a % of your assets or you his; its about all assets being divided between you both.

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

I hope someone can help with finances. It would be easier and cheaper for you both to agree wiyhout going to court but your ex might well consider it worth the risk. It isn't about him getting a % of your assets or you his; its about all assets being divided between you both.

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

I hope someone can help with finances. It would be easier and cheaper for you both to agree wiyhout going to court but your ex might well consider it worth the risk. It isn't about him getting a % of your assets or you his; its about all assets being divided between you both.