ME

Well I too have stumbled on this site like so many of you whilst sitting on my own and wondering what I am going to do!
After being together for 27 year, 25 of them as man and wife he has decided it is over.
It has not been without it's rocky patches. Five years ago after loosing a lot of weight I began to receive the attention I had so craved thoughout my marriage...but not from my husband.
I got friendly with the husband of a collegue at work...I know!!!! ...so out of character for myself but the attention was so addictive. Anyway we didn't sleep together but we did share a kiss and I went out of my way to be with him because he made me feel so good. To cut a long story short I confessed to my husband who was understandably angry and upset. I told him I was sorry and that it was because he constantly ignored me...something he has agreed he did.After a lot of arguing and crying he agreed to give me another chance.
Last year it all just collapsed again and he was ready to end our marriage but I begged him to take me back promised I would change and be what he wanted. And so we continued until the end of July this year when he told me he no longer loved me as a wife and that he couldn't get past what had happened 5 years ago. We had made so many plans for the future that it came as a shock to me and makes me question the last 5 years.
He has been my world for 27 years and suddenly it's stopped. I just sit and cry constantly so many differnt emotions going through my head.

Hi and welcome to wiki

The way you are feeling just now is only natural, it will get easier but it all takes time and there are no short cuts to deal with this process. You just have to take it one day and one step at a time - but you do need to plan for your future. It sounds as if there is no way back and the first step is going to be accepting this and then deciding with your husband what you are going to do. There is no rush to sort things out but it may give you something to focus on if you do. Other advice is to fill your time with other things to take your mind off the situation, but I did find that it helped to work through things in my own head by speaking to people. There are many people here who will listen and will be able to offer advice about how you feel and any practical matters that arise as you go through this.

It will get better, and you are not alone

Janey

Thank you for your kind words.
I am finding it hard to confide in anyone at the moment and just feel so alone. He was the one I turned to when there was a problem. My eldest son is recently married and seems to be avoiding me, whilst my youngest is about to turn 18 and so is out most nights leaving me with time to feel sorry for myself.
I think I maybe using this forum a lot!

That's what its here for, and it is a way to talk to people who have been or are going through the same thing. It seems a long time ago now (and it is 6 years) but when my x first left the thing I missed most was having someone who you felt you could share everything with and have an adult conversation with at the end of each day. I found other's to do that with and it cetainly helped - friends and family, but do I wish I had found a site like this back then.

In the meantime be good to yourself

Janey

welcome to wikivorce

pop into the chatroom for instant support' or start a blog if you want. Your relationship will take time to heal from.