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Hi, sorry to hear about your situation.

I suggest you be careful about paying out a lot of money now. You wont get any medals for it and it may set a precedent as to what you can afford so may find its way in a court order. Then you wont have any choice.

Also be careful of vacating the family home. But its good you have so much time with your kids. have you considered you could apply for residence when the time comes?

Yes we will all move on and be better for it! Leave them to reap what they sow, eventually!

Paul, you sound like a good man and a good dad.
The hurt comes over in your posts, but not any bitterness which would be understandable in the circumstances.
If you can progress along the lines you've mentioned I feel that can only be for the good.
Those of us that have been betrayed can only pick ourselves up, dust ourselves down and start a new version of our lives. Perhaps not the one we had envisaged for a long time, different, but hopefully not worse.

I would agree with previous posts that you will need to think about finances and living arrangements, but please don't use the children or money as a 'cosh' to hit back.
You do not sound as though you would, but it many do and ultimately it is the children who suffer.
I suppose it will be a matter of finding the middle ground where you are not being taken for a ride, but similarly not witholding necessary funds for the children and to keep the home etc until it is all sorted.

Best get some advice to protect yourself.

Good Luck
Weeme

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