is anyone out there???????

jxr wrote:

And GTU - I'm shocked!

jxr - why...?

Oh dear, maybe I misunderstood.....

GTU wrote:

jxr wrote:

Good luck Kitkat, and keep posting here. It helps to get things out.

Oh, doesn't it just!!!!!!!

I thought you were being a bit rude about getting things out!
Maybe it's me thats got the rude mind. Oops

Hi KITKAT good to see u in chat room. use every bit of support you can to get u through this.
I have been separated 2 years and just starting divorce proceedings, again gd advice to go at your own pace. You can deal with more when u feel stronger. I never wanted x back as he had changed but I grieved for my happy family life and the lovely husb and father he used to be. Acceptance is hard but however much I wanted that life back it is gone forever.
By the way, I had the best of him, the ow has the s***t he is now!!!!She is welcome to him!
My 3 kids are disgusted with him, they feel betrayed, he lied to them 2.
Good luck it does get better but it is hard and it may take a long time.

No, I meant that it's so great to be able to have a Rant-o-Rama because it certainly helps and people actually get how you feel. Should have been a bit less cryptic I guess!

Also, kitkat - meant to mention that you will find a load of info on this site regarding the legal ins and outs, along with others' experience of same. You will find this invaluable.

Remember, knowledge is power!!!!!

im trying to take a day at a time but found out yesterday it involves another women it changes everything.i feel numb now just dont no what to do with myself anymore life just seems so pointless it just my family keeping here. even after all this i still would have him back stupid arnt i . i feel hopeful one minute devastated the next. life has become one bad dream and i dont want to do this. how can 1 person change my whole life without my consent it seems so unfair. yet i cling onto hope that it will go back to how it was. sorry for waffle

Hi Kitkat, It's been four weeks for me. My Wife decided that she didn't want to spend the rest of her life with me. It was a shock and the first week was madness for me. I am normally totally in control of my emotions and strong. Not that week, I was a mess. Four weeks on and I am a little better. I try not to think about the good times too much, I try not to think too far into the future. I live one day at a time. This site helps though, I can connect with many people. I understand what they are going through and they understand me. Try to be strong. Paulx

((kitkat))
If you're stupid, then so am I. It's pretty hard (i'm finding it almost impossible) to give up, let go and stop loving someone who's been such a massive part of your life. I keep thinking I'm over it, then the next day I realise I'm not. I'm over 2 months down the line and I still love her and would still take her back. Ask me tomorrow and i'll give you a different answer. Emotions are up and down all over the place for you at the moment. I'm sure it will get better (everybody says it will so it must!) but it looks like it's going to be a long road. I think you need to take things at your own pace and like everyone says, take a day at a time. I agree, how unfair it all is. When a decision is made on one side and not the other it's a cruel cruel thing to try to get your head around. You must realise that he's probably had ages to come to his decision, you have only just found out so while he's accepted what's happening (and it has been his choice) you have only just had the thunderbolt.
Try to look after yourself and get through each day. Come to wiki for a bit of support, or just to get things out of your head. It has helped me massively.
Take care
jxr
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