Hi, new here...

janeyg wrote:

Hi Elie - just think that he wouldn't have much chance of keeping kids with his bi-polar condition. Janey

Np Janey, just that when I think I have seen it all, another crazily injust situation arises in this not so funny circus we call divorce...call me a cynic...I do

aw ra best

Elle x

hi plum, does he have any normal periods between episodes, if he does could you reason with him then?he can't stop you seeing the kids if you take them with you.
i am not an expert but my advice is try not to feel guilty, it is not your fault he is not well and i bet you have done all you can to help him and then had it all thrown back in your face.have you got friends and family you can talk to? does he blame you for everything and never face up to his own problems? is he ok with other people and then let his anger out on you? dont let yourself get too low it is not your fault and try not to let him control you.
i wish you well, daleray.

I know Elie but a lot depends on what courts get told and whether you can prove things which raises a point - Just to safeguard you getting the kids in future and making sure that the contact that they have with your husband is safe I suggest you keep evidence of his behaviour - this can be as simple as just recording any events in your diary. He needs help as Nell mentions, perhaps you doing this may make him get it? If this happens, is there anyway back? (don't have to get the divorce straight away if you think there is). Even if this doesn't help your relationship at least the kids would have a better relationship with their father.

Janey

Thank you all so much for your support & replies, it's all very helpful. My god daleray do you know my husband?! He's having treatment for the bipolar but he's on the severest end of scale & his mood swings can vary from hour to hour. I've put all the important documents in a folder & will give them to my mum for safe keeping. Thanks again.

Plum