My story...

My ex and I decided to move to France 6 years ago with our 4 daughters. Before the move we had never has a marriage problem we've been together 17 years. After we settled in I had to resume work in London for 2 weeks a month. I slept on my friend sofa and worked hard as a taxi driver to provide for my family.

Everything seemed fine then about 2 years ago she said she had feelings for someone else. I was suprised and upset. It transpired they hadn't even spoken! So I presumed it was just a fantasy. We discussed our relationship and decided to continue, I thought the problems had been repaired - they hadn't. My ex's boredom, discontent and general unhappiness continued. She took a badly paid job in a shop and I had to work more away from home. The money started to become a problem and she said she wanted to sell the house and seperate. I agreed as it was becoming too expensive and I could see there was no way forward together. The house took 6 months to sell by which time I was sleeping on the spare room. We split the equity equally and she bought a house for herself and the children. I rented a flat. I then took the 4 children on a holiday back in England, where we had a great time. We came back a day earlier than I thought to find another man in the new house. I was horrified and so were the children. She introduced the children to her boyfriend that evening and managed to smooth the situation over. I am very upset as she thinks it's normal for him to stay overnight occasionally when the children are there. I am disgusted by this disregard for the children and I have now left France and want to iniate divorce proceedings. I have verbally agreed to pay 1,000 Euros a month if I can have 12 weeks access per year.
I am hurt and lonely. Also not sure of the legal position (we were married in the UK)regarding access and maintenance as the children are in France.

Hi Joey

Welcome to Wiki. I'm really sorry to hear that you had this shock, it certainly takes some getting over doesn't it? You're not alone in what you have been through, lots on here have been deceived in a similar way, so I hope that you get some comfort from Wiki.

NGirly

Whoops! Sorry Joey I kinda went past your question there at the end I will add it here as then if anyone reads this your question hopefully wont get overlooked, my bad sorry.

Joey Groundbait wrote:

I am hurt and lonely. Also not sure of the legal position (we were married in the UK)regarding access and maintenance as the children are in France.