Hello

Hi Im new to this site, and found this site while i was looking on the internet. I am 25 years old and i am going through the early stages of divorce. I have started my Petition and am waiting for the papers to be sent to my husband. I have a lot of support from family and friends, but really need to talk to people that are going through the same thing. I was married for 6 years and was with my husband for 8 years in total. If anyone could help me to make sense of the feelings that i am having i would be so grateful. Thank you for taking the time to read this and look forward to anyone wanting to chat.

Welcome to wikivorce babbs, sorry you need us. You've found a community of people who understand how your feeling now. For now I can assure you it does get much better, have a look round the site. You will find people with similar stories in the forums or through their blogs. Visit us in chat and have a rant or just listen peeps there are friendly and welcoming.
Tets

hi there

Sorry it's been necessary for you to visit wiki but you've joined the best place for support. It's been a godsend to me since I joined a few weeks ago. Just by reading the blogs and the forums you will see you are not alone. I'm 4 months down the line since stbx caused this devastion and in the early days I couldn't breathe. You will go through a rollercoaster of emotions. My good days seem to be outweighing the bad days though today is particularly bad for me. I now that I just have to ride through it and I will be ok tomorrow. Just accept that when you're having a bad day fighting it can make it worse. Do something for yourself or just go for a walk. You can't eat a whole elephant so don't expect to deal with your situation all at once. Take each day as it comes, small steps, and pat yourself on the back each night cos you know you've dealt with another day.

Pop into chat. everyone is a friendly bunch. Sometimes we're just talking nonsense to brighten up our days but just jump in with any question you need to ask. The support is incredible.

Take care

Lonely
xxxxx

Hi babbs

Welcome to Wiki. 8 years is long time, and at such a young age too is awful for you. Rest assured that we are going through similar stuff to you and you will get lots of support from Wiki-peeps. Making sense of what you are going through is something we can help you with as we are doing exactly the same. It is a process and you said the words right there...'going through'. That is why we say it does get better, because we go through it, we have to in order to come out the other side, all things are passing and nothing stays static, so it has to get better in the end or we would all be sad for the rest of our lives, and no one wants that, at some point it is natural to want happiness back in your life.

Wiki is a really good place to come when it gets too much, even if there is not many people around, you can put a blog up (always good for venting), or start a thread and someone will respond, which is quite a nice feeling when you get a response. It helps you to feel less alone in what you are going through. The people in chat are lovely too always there with a welcome and you can join in when you are ready if you want to.

There are people on here that are a similar age to you, I had a meal with one in fact the other week when a bunch of us wiki-peeps met up and she is lovely as were all of the group. We have all got one thing in common and it's great to get together just to get away from the situation for a bit, kinda time out, or to have a venting session or even cry (we are good at giving our wiki friends hugs even if they are only virtual ones they all help).


Take it easy
NGirly

Hay, thank you for the messages, im not having a good day today. I keep thinking about all the things that have gone wrong between me and my stbx. And the only thing i have come up with today is that the bad times have really outweighed the good. I just feel so guilty for leaving him, but i had to leave him for my own sake otherwise i wouldnt have been here now.
Its so hard to put a smile on my face some days when all i want to do is cry. I dont want to feel like this forever, but it feels like i will. I married him when i was so young and naive, i believed everything he said to me and forgave him time and time again.
Your messages have really helped me and i wanted to say thank you to you all for your support. Its so amazing where you get support from, i dont feel so alone now.
Hope you all are well, and thanks for making this miserable girl smile. Ive not done that in such a long time.

Babbs

Sorry you are having a tough day but you will smile again.

There are lots of wiki peeps here to help you on your way.

Take care ((((babbs))))

Lonely
xx