Hello

I did introduce myself and my situation a few months ago, I got no replies!

I recently separated after an 18 year relationship, married for 10, two sons 17 and 13, no one else involved for either party. He has 17yo in FMH, me and 13yo in rented shoebox!! I am on benefits after redundancy he has good job and income and is not giving me anything financially or otherwise. Have been reading all posts daily for a few months now, I look forward to it each day (sad??) I see it as swotting up in rediness for when the time comes for action.

Have obtained such useful info from this site which has helped me to clarify things and move forward somewhat.

Emotionally and mentally I am in a so much better place than I was (rock bottom) thanks to counselling, self help books, family and friends etc.

I must add, some of the posts are so painful that I am regularly in tears, and wish I could give the person a big big hug.
Dee xxx

Hi Denby

Welcome to Wiki. Really glad that you are finding the resources here useful. The information covers a vast area doesn't it? Just thought I'd say Hi and be one of the many going through similar stuff to you that will hopefully respond this time

Mine was a very long marriage too. I hope that you get some better things come along in your journey down the divorce path.

Take it easy

NGirly

Hi Denby. Thats 2 replies more than last time Welcolm to the site. Its lively at times. But just join in. We help each other mostly by holding hands. Sometimes we bicker and moan a bit but hey thats wiki. C.

Hi

Just joined today, seperated just a year ago, been in a hugh black hole until recently. Married 25 years, 2 kids 15 and 9, both live with dad.

Not easy divorce, proceedings still all in court ( serves me right in believing in a bloke that once made it would still want me)

Money and position certainly appeal to judges not kids welfare.

Live in Kenilworth warwickshire and looking forward to the future and watching my son in 2012 olympics

Hi, welcome. I am fairly new here, I have been "stalking" for months, only started posting this week.

You must stay focused and strong, it will end eventually, and at the end you still have a life to live, so enjoy it. My philosophy is "you cant change what happened yesterday but you can change tomorrow".Mind you has taken me a long time to get to this point.LOL

I have a sporty son too, what does yours do? Mine has represented his country too, makes you so so proud, nothing equals it. Love him to bits, he lives with his father (unfortunately - long story involving brainwashing!!!)
Dee

Hi

Thanks for reassuring and lovely welcome.

Sounds like we've something in common son's brainwashed by fathers. Son is in GBR sailing team.

Thanks

hallo Dee

sorry you didn't get any responses first time round, that's not usually the case!

I have a 17 yr old who is mad on rugby and BMX and a 15 yr old who is football daft!

Last year my husband/their father moved out to live with someone else and her children after we'd been married 18 years and together for 31.

I am still in the family home though would love to start again with my own place, but putting up with it as its stability for the boys while they do college course/GCSEs.

I am in chat room sometimes, often on the forum and have really enjoyed the wiki meets I've been too and looking forward to Wikiween (see Events) on 17 Oct.

Love

Nell