Hatred How do i stop it

My husband moved out in Feb this year.
we were completelly in love but destroyin each other with arguments and hurtful words.
I loved him so so much and never imagined my life would be like this.
I am trying to move on and my Decree Nisi is due in a few weeks.
I have so many questions which my ex won't answer and he ignores any messages or e mails I send him which also makes me even more angry.
i still have good and bad days but I ahve this overwhelming anger toward him.
I can't sleep for thinking about all of the horrible things he did and i just don't know how to get over it.
he also works in my place of work sometimes and when I see him, you can almost see smoke coming out of my ears!
I don't know what to do??? Will this anger ever leave me

It's a pity he won't explain things to you as it makes things harder to cope with I think. I've been separated but living in the same house and it's hell. Only last week he went out for dinner and came home having had a few drinks and he told me what had happened - he'd had an affair which fell through. She let him down and now he's 'seeing a couple of women'. Hurtful? Not as hurtful as the beginning of all this. I'd felt all along that he owed me an explanation and I had it at last - partially. I'd wanted desperately to understand who he had become.
What I find difficult is that he's so callous about what he's done to people, memories and things which were so precious to me.
I hope things get easier for you soon.

Hi and my thoughts are with you, I know how you feel.
I do wonder though if the emotion you feel is not hatred but frustration, that questioning prevents you achieving closure. There is a very real possibility that your ex could not even explain his actions, let alone justify them. I am having the same sort of emotions and I just take a deep breath and say to myself that sometime she must face the music so to speak. None of this can hinge on revenge for that will destroy you! Find someone, a friend at the start, talk, confide a little and try to move away from the questions you have to ask.

Good luck, you are amongst friends