Too much information in front of children!

Hello, im goin through separation at the moment and was down this road 7 years ago but with no help and guidance i backed down for security purposes and children! This time round, 3rd time of asking for change, I have simply had enough and need to be loved like a wife not a piece of meat, I do not wish to go into detail on here but I think you ladies will get the drift. My husband is dead against the separation as he feels there is nothing wrong with how we live! Anyhow long story short, he is using the kids as emotional barriers and saying things they do not wish to hear. Slagging me off and putting situations in their path to get a reaction. Our daughter is 11 with dyslexia and bouts of depression and our son is 14 and is backin up his dad. As i cannot discuss the intimate details with the children I have tried to explain why I am so unhappy within the marriage, without slaggin off my husband, so they can maybe understand. I do not wish to live in the family home for the asbo neighbours. So they alternative is to sell and move on. However my husbands is blaming me for the split and telling kids is my fault and I am making him sell the house to find another home. AM I ABLE TO GET AN INJUNCTION AGAINST HIM FOR SPEAKING SO OUT OF TURN AS HE IS MENTALLY TORTURING MY DAUGHTER. He is clearly shifting the blame to me and this is so not the case it takes two. Plz advise

Separating parents are under a duty to shield their children as much as possible from any conflict - "harm" to children is not just physical violence or deprivation. It includes emotional harm. Children aren't equipped to deal with these things, they are innocent bystanders, and we owe them better than to involve them in the cross-fire.

You cannot be responsible for your husband's behaviour, only your own, it is a question of remaining detached and maintaining physical and emotional barriers and focusing on your own behaviour by, for example, not reacting to criticism and threats. It is bad enough with one parent using the children as a weapon against the other without the other parent confusing them further by telling them another story and trying to defend themselves. I think what the children need you to do is not to react to criticism or threats and lots of reassurance that they are loved by both parents. Rather than focusing on the present crises try remaining positive by focusing on happy times you have shared with the children by digging out old photos and talking about them. Encourage them generally to make up their own minds rather than believing everything they are told.

Then it is a question with pressing on with the practical arrangements so that you can separate finances and go your separate ways as quickly as possible.