Hi all

Ok so I have been playing around with the idea of separation/divorce for yonks but never seem to be brave enough to take the plunge. My story in a nutshell is this. Been with husband for over 15 years, married for 4 years. Two children aged 3 months and 3 years. As a couple we have been growing apart for ages and really not moving forwards. Stress of finances and his frequent use of cannabis (not around the girls I hasten to add)really dont help our situation. My focus is us as a family. His focus is ...???

Hi YummyMummy

Welcome to Wiki.

The site has a wealth of information, advice, support and help to offer. Im sure you will find it very useful.

Have you thought about counselling? It would give you both an opportunity to speak, and express how you feel. You know what your focus is, but not your husbands - perhaps talking might help him realise he needs to let you know what his focus is?

Divorce is a long, ardous, emotional journey, and itsnt something I would wish on anyone - keep us posted on what happens?

Ruby (slummymummy )

We have been for counselling in the past and it worked for a while but now I feel I am flogging a dead horse. Realise now that the person I fell in love with all those years ago was the stoned one!

Hallo

We often "flog a dead horse" and feel it was a waste of time, but the truth is you were trying to save your marriage and you've done all you could. Now you are realising its best to move on and you've joined a site that will really help you with this.

you will find many people on here to help you on your journey. I sympathise with you about the cannabis as it caused the same problems in my relationship. My stbx cannot cope with reality without using it as a crutch. Unfortunately he turned to harder drugs which I did not find out until after we split four months ago. You and your girls deserve far more than someone who needs a lift to help them through life.

You're doing the right thing by removing yourself and your girls from the marriage and I wish you luck along the way. I'm just starting to function now after nearly five months. Still have my wobbles from time to time but know I'm better off without him in my life.

Take care

Lonely xx