life after separation

Hi all, well today is the first day i have had no contact with him at all - taking his advice and moving on - so why do i feel crap and as if iam going mad!

Hi there

It is a huge thing, and you get on a kind of a rollercoaster, when it stops (and you have wanted it to) then you feel relieved, and then its odd and so quiet!

its odd because its what you are used to and the new bit is not so familiar, but it will be and you will get better and stronger. Of that I am sure.



xx
JR

What I meant and I dont think is clear from my post is that - we get into a kind of rut/routine with the fighting/hating/being so upset. And when we get those breaks in the rain fall then we are unsure what to do with them, but that they get easier and then we see the sunshine too.
xx

You are OK to feel way you do - don't bottle things up let them out. You are still in shock, you'll feel this is not really happening to you. You will indeed feel you are going mad, but you are not, you are only human and your life has fallen apart.

Keep posting and using this site will help

I feel for you, take care of yourself

xx

Well done! It's hugely difficult to stop having contact. Your h or w has always been there and now they aren't. It leaves a big gap. Please be gentle with yourself as you find your way through this. Some days you will feel crap and others you'll feel ok. Just know that every day which passes you are getting stronger and moving forward. Take your time with it and don't let anyone rush you.

Take care, Bon

Hi,

Welcome to Wiki, you will find lots of very good advice and lovely people offering you lots of support.

"Life after seperation", Your life has been turned on its head, no wonder your feeling c***, your feeling totally emotional, scared, alone, no one could tell you this was going to happen but we can tell you what to expect, expect good and bad days, happy and sad days, all rolled into one. But for sure it does get easier with time, roll with it.

Most of all take care of yourself, easy for me to say, i've been there i know how difficult it is, but try to eat and sleep well - you will be able to function properly next day if you look after these two things.

Keep logging in and keep posting questions on here, you will get the answers your looking for.

Onwards and upwards,

xx