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I want my son back
28 Oct 09 #158013
by Annabella
Topic started by Annabella
Hello,
My name is Anna, I was married at 19 and had a child by my partner, the marriage broke down when our son was just 18 months old. My son came with me when I left the home, he followed me through another failed relationship then we moved away to the midlands, where I met up with an old friend, who became my second husband who I am still with now. When my son was 4, my partner was made redundant, and we went through great financial difficulty, I had since had a second child, another little boy. We were told there was no financial help available, my husband began work in a warehouse but this barely made the rent and the bills, we lived on hardly anything and I became very depressed. Refusing to seek help for this I delved deeper into depression, until one day I couldn't stand to watch my first son go without because we had to buy nappies for his brother, or milk. We had no family near us to help. I called my ex who had regular contact with his son, and asked if he could live with him for a while. He agreed. He lives miles away, and since that day I have regretted it, yet when i approached the subject or asked how he was i would get a short text message with 'he's fine' or 'thanks for present' i haven't spoken to my boy since he left, his dad seems to be reluctant to let me talik to him. He is 9 years old today. Since he left i underwent treatment for my depression from the doctors, got my acocuntancy qualifications and started full time work, we are not well off but we manage, but i feel my son would benefit from seeing his brother, and getting to know him. I don't know how to approach it but I am afraid i will continue to be fobbed off by my ex, who is very well off, and comes from a very well off family who don't accept divorce or 'half siblings'
Looking back through this post, i come across selfish, i just thought he would be better off with him at the time. I have recently moved to a much larger house, and told my ex this, and that my son could now come and stay as its important he gets to know his siblings, and have received no reply.
If anyone can help? or give any advice it wuold be greatly appreciated:)
thank you
anna
My name is Anna, I was married at 19 and had a child by my partner, the marriage broke down when our son was just 18 months old. My son came with me when I left the home, he followed me through another failed relationship then we moved away to the midlands, where I met up with an old friend, who became my second husband who I am still with now. When my son was 4, my partner was made redundant, and we went through great financial difficulty, I had since had a second child, another little boy. We were told there was no financial help available, my husband began work in a warehouse but this barely made the rent and the bills, we lived on hardly anything and I became very depressed. Refusing to seek help for this I delved deeper into depression, until one day I couldn't stand to watch my first son go without because we had to buy nappies for his brother, or milk. We had no family near us to help. I called my ex who had regular contact with his son, and asked if he could live with him for a while. He agreed. He lives miles away, and since that day I have regretted it, yet when i approached the subject or asked how he was i would get a short text message with 'he's fine' or 'thanks for present' i haven't spoken to my boy since he left, his dad seems to be reluctant to let me talik to him. He is 9 years old today. Since he left i underwent treatment for my depression from the doctors, got my acocuntancy qualifications and started full time work, we are not well off but we manage, but i feel my son would benefit from seeing his brother, and getting to know him. I don't know how to approach it but I am afraid i will continue to be fobbed off by my ex, who is very well off, and comes from a very well off family who don't accept divorce or 'half siblings'
Looking back through this post, i come across selfish, i just thought he would be better off with him at the time. I have recently moved to a much larger house, and told my ex this, and that my son could now come and stay as its important he gets to know his siblings, and have received no reply.
If anyone can help? or give any advice it wuold be greatly appreciated:)
thank you
anna
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