Going through a tough time

My sentiments exactly pete, you made me laugh with your last piece of invaluable information. But all true Larkin, hang in there, you will feel devastated, this is a shock, and a life changing experience for you, what you are feeling is normal. It has taken me a year to be able to get up in the morning, and not feel as if my heart is breaking, it will get easier, lots of friends to give you advice on here also, take care, ausgirl.

Thanks everyone for your comments. Pete, you made me giggle - thank you!

I went to visit my GP about three days after he went to ask about getting help. First thing she did was get me to complete a couple of questionnaires and then put me onto HRT treatment to help with the symptoms I am experiencing with going through the change - part of which is extreme tiredness, depression and usual symptoms like hot flushes, palpitations, etc.

GP said she would not be putting me onto anti-depressants but I am now seeing a counsellor regarding cognitive therapy amongst others, just received more questionnaires she wants me to complete before I see her next Friday. Have appointment to see my solicitor on Tuesday. Have a lot of worries at the moment and find myself often during course of day torturing myself over what is happening and imagining what is going to happen.

I've got some wonderful friends, all of whom just cannot understand him at all. They think he has been a cold, calculating g*t!!!!

Sorry for rambling on.

Enliven, Pete, excellent posts as usual.

When I was married to my ex we had a dog. He got rid of that dog because he said it was too big (labrador).

Ten years after he gave the beloved labrador away, he got another dog. I loved that dog. He kept it in the shed, because he said he didn't want dog hairs over the house. When he was out I brought the dog in the house. She sadly died of old age.

When I divorced my ex 2 years ago, I was 7 stone overweight and deeply deeply depressed. Two years down the line - have lost the weight and guess what? I have 4 dogs. I love them, absolutely and incredibly. They live in the house and sleep on my bed.

My house is immaculate - I have so much pride in my house, my girls, my dogs and me.

Dont let this man get you down - love your animals, love your home, but most of all, love yourself.

Jo x

Well, things took a down turn last week when I received a letter from his sol. advising that he was starting diorce proceedings. Also advised I should seek alternative accommodation by end of month. I had spoken to him that morning and he asked me if i had received sols. letter. When he told me what it would say I told him i would not be leaving our home. Since then I have received a number of household bills he has transferred into my name - which I guess is to be expected as he isn't living here, but how cruel to receive a lot at once when I only work part time!

I am so worried - I wonder if his aim is to end up totally happy and have the woman he says he worshipped, but no longer loves, a nervous wreck. Well although I am not feeling good at the moment, I am not going to let that **** get the better of me, I have a long haul ahead, but I know I am a far better and nicer person than he could ever be.