Hello from very distressed and dazed newbie

I lost weight, very briefly, I found it again, I think someone else's as well!

Look after yourself.

Hi,

Your 'story' is the same as mine 5 years ago and I have stupidly dragged it on by taking my stbx back 6 times! I can hardly believe myself how crazy that is/was!

We are almost divorced now and he is still living in Bath with Trollop (13 months this time!) but wanting to return again! No way!

The advice on here is fabulous, especially from 'Elvis Fan' who is FANTASTIC!

Please contact me if you want to 'talk'.

Take care.

Hugs,

Janine xxx (I am 50 as well)

Hi

How horrible to be doubly betrayed and to be unable to react the way you'd like because of your daughter.

I'm 53 now and my ex left 15 months ago to live with someone else. I had to endure him being under the same roof as me for nearly 4 months as we didn't want to upset our elder son's GCSEs. As it happened our elder son left school immediately afterwards and did nothing for a year (he's now in college, thank goodness).

I was really hurt as we'd agreed to separate, I thought we were in the same place emotionally, sad but resigned. But he already had the ow lined up - I still don't know how long they'd been having an affair. And he only fessed up to me about her because I wormed it out of him, so he was a coward as well as a deceiver.

I'm over him now, but we aren't divorced yet. He carries on like a love-sick puppy and goes on in front of our children about what a great time he is having with ow's children and wonders why his sons don't want to spend time with him.

Time will help and with this site you are never alone.

It is very comforting to know that I am not alone.

Last time I did not broadcast anything to the world because I wanted to see if I could save my marriage, and up till last Wed I thought after the fantastic 9 months we have had everything was ok.

My h deserves an oscar for his acting he obviously learnt from last time it was easy to pick up on his behavior so I guess he just went the other way and was extra nice all the time.

It will be different now I know i need to seek as much support as I can from all around me.

I await my h comments after our daughter has gone to bed.