Even I can't believe I am so stupid!!!!!!!

I have been married for 28 yrs have 3 kids 18, 25 & 27nearly 3 years ago my H started an affair with one of our employees. She was a good worker with 4 kids and a lowpayed P.
In the 10 years she worked for us we helped her lot financially. Then we got her a car, let her use our holiday home with the company paying for flights and car rental, let her keep her horse in our paddock for free (I know how do you keep a horse on benefits??????????) let her clean our house, paid her big bonuses! And all the while trusted my H:ohmy:
But that is only the half of it!!! She then left her partner again! (always looking for someone to give her more)We rent out houses but didn't have any vacant, my H bought anoher house put her in it and bought her furniture Well we can get tax relief on it!!!
The best bit is that it took awhile for that to go through so he moved her and youngest girl in with US!!!!
When I FINALLY got the message he refused to sack her from family business,and get her out the house! he said its over with her times and I believed him everytime.
Have now moved out still working in the business but I know after reading the stories here that I need to go to a sol.NOBODY could of been as stupid as me surely??? But if I am honest I dont want to,and he doesn't want me to divorce him just wait, I know Ive been a prize pratt can it ever work?? just so sick of being taken for granted for 3 years now!
Thanks for letting me rant still cant believe it after all this time!
S

S,

That people have abused your kindness does NOT make you stupid...IMHO you should move back in...get rid of this leech and I cannot say wot you should do to your ex..I would get banned..lol

Take your time to gather and promulgate info from the peeps, resources and tools here...regain your confidence and call the shots on this pair of sneaky, greedy creeps!

E

How is being kind - being stupid..

You are not stupid, you have done what anyone would do for a friend!

She & your husband are the lying deceitful s**** that have taken advantage of your good nature...

So.. all things considered & put behind you.. Heres what I think!

Get back in YOUR home like now..
Go see a Sol like now...
Get her out of the marital home...

Thats a start! - They are both continuing to walk all over you & I have to be honest here.. You need to shape up.. allowing your husband to persuade you to move in this "trolloping freeloader" into YOUR home(I know thats not even a word ) you may be on the tad bit soft!!!

Go get some profesional advice tomorow & get this sorted..

Wishing you the best of luck...

x

Hi Seek1ng

Sorry this has happened to you, you are not stupid, it sounds like you have been very manipulated by two very cunning people.

What would you like to happen?

If having a bit of breathing space is what you need, then make sure that you give yourself the time.

And if you want her out and for you to move back in, then yes get on the phone to a solicitor ASAP and see what measures you can take to do this.

Go easy on yourself, you sound like a very giving person and now it is time to think of yourself.

Take care
NG

PS remember to pamper yourself even if only briefly, and give your mind a rest from the worries, it really does help to allocate a moment or two to 'me' time. Then come back to stuff refreshed. I had to force myself to do this, but it does help to get a clearer head.