You've lost that loving feeling

Husband of 6 years and partner of 13 years rekindled feelings for an old flame with the help of facebook. Months of lies followed lots of signs that he was having an affair but I was blinded by love. He confessed to a one night stand just after xmas and moved out he returned in April to make a go of it (not much effort made) and left again in August. Came across photos of him and old flame at her Christmas do so clearly a full on affair. One of the most hurtful revelations during many nights of me desperatly trying to save our marriage was that he had fallen out of love with me and had felt this way for 2 years. We are in regular contact because of our 2 young children. I can't believe how much he has changed and how everything I do seems to irritate him. I know I need to move on but feel so hurt he commented the other day that I should be over what has happened by now and that he couldn't believe I was still thinking about it. I don't feel I am the same person.

Amazing aren't they? The emotional closeness, the intimacy and sharing of bodily fluids, yet you are supposed to forget it!
What are you going to do?

Rose

I understand the situation you are in and I was told more or less the same thing too, you can't be expected to get over it overnight, there is the betrayal, the lies and hurt, it takes time, and what need is people around you to help and support you and you have come to the right place

take care

For a long time, before he admitted to having the affair, I felt he was pushing me to tell him to go and that it was over. He is always vague and non commital when I try and talk to him. A few weeks ago I told him that I would never get over what he had done, plus the fact he isn't in love with me, and that we needed to call it a day. He simply agreed and said he was fed up with talking about it! Thats as far as I have got I think joining this site will be very useful.