Hello

Hello,
I am new to this website, and would like to thank people for the helpful things I have been reading since I joned a few days ago.
My feelings of great sadness are echoed in so much of what you all say, and it is comforting to know that I am not alone in feeling as I do.
Does anyone know how long it takes to feel better, properly better, after a break-up? My lawyer cheerfully told me I'll be 'flying' in two years. Two years ... help!
Best wishes
rmm3

Hi there and welcome! I'm sorry you find yourself here. There isn't an easy answer to your question. We are all different and it takes as long as it takes. You've come here for support and that is a great step forward. The most important thing is to take it one day at a time and put yourself first, as selfish as that may feel.

You will get there. Please keep posting and let us know how you are getting on. If there are any specific things you'd like some support with, please ask. We'll do our best to support you.

Take care, Bon

I think it is a bit like grieving....only perhaps in some ways worse because the perso you lost is still around and they rejected you .

I can't put a time limit on it, just take one day at a time really . xxxx

Hi

Its 2 years since I divorced and your lawyer is right - I am flying! Life is great, fabulous in fact.

I am nothing like the woman I was. I sing and dance around the house on a regular basis. (I used to lie in bed as much as possible).

I think divorce is similar to a death and once you have got the mourning and the finances all sorted, you start to live again.

You will be fine, I promise you.

Jo x

Hi Jo,

Thank you so much for this lovely encouraging reply. I appreciate it so much -and it's really good to hear that you are flying again, two years on! Well done indeed - and thanks for passing that on to me. There's hope for me yet!
All good wishes to you!
R x

Thank you so much for this kind reply. It was really nice of you, and I appreciate that you took the trouble to write. I know really that no-one can tell me how long it will take to feel better again. It's just that when you are feeling so bad, you clutch at straws and hope someone will have a magic formula out there ... but you are right, it's a question of a day at a time, nothing else for it.
Thank you again.
R x

Hi Bon,
Thank you so much for that lovely warm and encouraging reply to my introductory message yesterday. It's so kind of you to offer your support - I find other people's concern and understanding incredibly moving, and appreciate it very much. It was also reassuring that you said the whole concept of putting oneself first feels selfish - because of course it does. But I also know that sometimes it's necessary.
I know I have to take each day as it comes, one day at a time. Some days you start to think you're getting better, and then there you are the next day, sad again and back to Square 1.
But it is great to have found this website, and to know there are people out there feeling as I am feeling - or hopefully, feeling better than I am feeling! And I don't feel quite so alone any more.
Thank you again for your kindness and encouragement.
All good wishes
Rx