a struggle

i found out my husband had an affair last year after 5 years of marriage and we have been trying to sort things out for the last 12 months. it has been very difficult and i have got major trust issues that arent going away. he doesnt give me reason or reassurance to trust him and continues to lie. He works away in the weeek and comes home at weekends. one minute he tells me he loves me the next he says our relationship is going nowhere...he's not a good communicator and he doesnt want to go to counselling. i havent seen him for 4 weeks and feel like i am just waiting for him to decide what he wants. i cant move on.

Hi Spags

You poor thing (((( big hug )))

My ex had affair after 18 years of marriage and when i kicked him out he moved in with ow.I just knew i would never trust him and felf so betrayed i would not forgive or forget.
But that was me !

I think you need to ask yourself some Questions like:

Do i love him ?

Does he love me ?

Could i ever trust him ?

Is it a marriage worth saving ?

You could go to counselling on your own that might help.

You say you have not seen him for 4 weeks do you know where he is ?

One last thing its not just what he wants you need to ask yourself what you want too x!

I hope things get easier for you and you manage to sort things out.

Take care of yourself x

m2m x