I just want to die,Mylife seems over

Mike oh dear
you will get by its horrid horrid, but youll see on here you have many kindred spirits
do not despair and stick round... hey we all here for each other and the support from this site is invaluable as are the lovies on here...we all here for you mike
love looby

Mike
I'm another one whose been there.

THEN
Last October felt just as you do.
Wife said she wanted out, didn't love me etc and hadn't for a long time.
Done the bursting with tears.
All I had worked for in my whole life goes up the swanny in one decision that wasn't my own
Feared I'd lose my kids etc etc.
Wondered how I'd get through it

NOW
Pleased it happened -
We were in truth both unhappy
Better relationship with kids - although only see them one or two days a week - they are all mine and we do proper stuff together and talk.
Redressed work life balance
Friends rally round.
Suddenly loads of people who have been through this come out of the woodwork to support you.
Out two or three nights a week.
And just found someone new I hope it will work out with.

Bear with it - its not going to be easy, and your comfort zone is gone, but its great to feel alive again even though I've still loads to sort out - divorce/finances etc.

Mike
I'm another one whose been there.

THEN
Last October felt just as you do.
Wife said she wanted out, didn't love me etc and hadn't for a long time.
Done the bursting with tears and the shock
All I had worked for in my whole life goes up the swanny in one decision that wasn't my own
Feared I'd lose my kids etc etc.
Wondered how I'd get through it

NOW
Pleased it happened -
We were in truth both unhappy
Better relationship with kids now - although I only see them one or two days a week - they are all mine and we do proper stuff together and talk.
Friends do rally round.
Suddenly loads of people you know/work colleagues etc who have been through this come out to support you.
Social life starts up again slowly
And just found someone new I hope it will work out with.

Bear with it - its not going to be easy, and your comfort zone is gone, but you do get out the other side. For some it doesn't take long, for others may be longer as you will see on the board, but when you do its great to feel alive again and even though I've still loads to sort out and pain to go through - divorce/finances etc - you realise its not the end of the world and youre not alone!

This Board is the best place to be to help you get through it - I visited daily in the first weeks and months and you can see people like yourself as they initially cope and move on.

Good luck

Mike

Take this from someone who fell so deep into the abyss, she almost didnt make it back. Life can feel like every thing is against you at times, but even during the darkest times, there is light at the end of the tunnel, even when you cant see it. The life you once had has ended, but that doesnt mean that your life has, a new life is waiting for you, and you will find the light again.

Hi Mike

Yes, there is light at the end of the tunnel - its the crawling through it that is hard. The 2.5 years after we separated have been the worst of my life, but the last 3-4 months things have changed and I smile and laugh and enjoy things and look forward to things again..... and begin to plan my future. You will to, given time.

Give yourself time to deal with the roller coaster of emotions you will feel. Keep coming back to wiki for support and encouragement from people who know exactly how you are feeling.

All the best,

Rosie

Hang in there Mike, there is definitely nothing wrong with having a cry-better to let the emotions out than keep them bottled in where they can cause you more harm. You are not alone-there is plenty of support from so many people here. Take comfort from everyones words-you are being hugged over the electronic highway!!
This too will pass xx

wow today is bad I signed away my rights to the house I built,just hate myself and life