Abducted by Aliens

Exactly a year ago today my husband left the family home to see the woman he was having an affair with saying he needed "to sort things out". We had been married 12 years, together 5 years before that, 2 children -9 and 11.

I knew things had not been good for some time between us as he was increasingly on World of Warcraft but I had had no idea that anything as dramatic as this would happen. Things had been difficult for me at work and I had needed a lot of support from him and I guess he just felt overstreatched. My church going, law abiding, very judgemental husband (Ulrike Jonnson and Anthea Turner were not allowed on TV as they were harlots - his words not mine)had moved in with the mother of my childrens school friends and her husband had apparently been informed by e mail. He was overseas and his circumstances meant he could not come home for six weeks at least.

I spent months wondering why - what if I'd done this, said that, not been as needy etc etc and I allowed his actions to make me feel less than nothing. It really was as if he had been abducted by aliens as this behaviour seemed so out of character.

Fast forward a few months and she is now back with her own husband as she is beautiful but high maintanance and basically my dim silly sod of a husband could not afford her and her own husband always takes her back. My husband now takes on the role of victim and although I would not have had him back I so desperately wanted him to want to come back to the family home. It really was the scariest place to be.

Fast forward a few more months and I found a wonderful councellor, I found you lovely people (special thanks to Marshy and JoannaA)and I found another site called Bagage Reclaim which was like getting glasses for the first time.

I am now so much stronger and view the marriage as the power play it truly was and I am glad to be out of it. My Absolute came through a few days ago and weirdly all my family and friends said the same thing - "Congratulations"

So this long, rambling post is basically to say that when it happens its feels like the world has ended but it has taken me 12 months to turn my life around and the aliens have done me a big favour.

Plus I'm off on holiday with the children this Christmas which I would never have even dared suuggest in our previous life so I wish you all a peaceful Christmas because I will be having my first peaceful one in 12 years.

God Bless,

Mrs Mellors

So glad you have come out the other side and feel stronger after all you have been through.

I hope others can take inspiration from your experience.

All the best

IGB

Wonderful, have a fantastic holiday. x

Hello Mrs Mellors

Thanks for that!

I didn't know about this site when I was going through what I now call "My Hell", but I so I had known about it.

It can be a brilliant site and offers so much support to so many people. That is why I joined to try and help others and assure them that when they are going through their "Hell", that life does get better, we just have to hang on in there - just like you have done!

Well done.

Jo x

Enjoy your holiday Mrs Mellors and I hope its the start of a wonderful new life for you.