Keep calm and carry on...

My ex was a bully and a control freak and although I knew he had had a one night stand at the start of our marriage, I never knew until he confessed to me 3 years ago after 20 odd years together that in the first ten years of our life together he shagged everything and anything that walked, including his own sister!

I was shocked to the Absolute core - ill with the shock of it all.

But that was 3 years ago. I divorced him two years ago and you know what life is now - GREAT!

Hang on in there, your husband has done what he has done because he could, because he chose to. He didn't do it to you, he did it because he wanted to.

My ex told me that after every one of his shags he just brushed himself down and looked forward to coming home to me and his daughters!

Ha ha, well now he goes home to his mothers, no longer has the opportunity (or youth) to shag unsuspecting women and he is a lonely man.

What goes around comes around - you will come out of this the other side. This is from one who was once so fat she couldn't move off the sofa, who cowered in a corner of the room for fear of her husband kicking off.

Now 7 stone lighter and every corner is filled with an ornament in my lovely little home without the abuser and narcisstic creep who used to have the honour of calling himself my husband.

Onwards and upwards towards 2010.

Make 2010 YOUR year.

Jo x

Thank you. I love your comment that people have affairs because they want to. How simple is that - but so true. This site is great, every time I visit I come away with another small piece of the jigsaw slotted in - and more importantly feeling better about myself.

BTW The name comes from my two favourite tv series, (there are few that capture my full attention but these 2 did - albeit nearly 20 years apart!) - that's all.