another bad year behind me.

wow thank you for all the replys i recieved...really apprecaited the honesty.
the biggest problem i hav is i am a peacemaker! this is not a good thing. whem my husband is nice to me i melt...this is because i hope it will be ok... deep down i know he wont change. hes very controlling. i have come to expect how he is with me the biggest prob are my 2 sons from my previous marraige. my new husband hates them and finds anything to complain about them. they are normal teenage boys. they are having there own demons as there dad has been diagnoised with a brain tumour and is fighting for his life...my current husband states its not his problem! i am trying to keep it peaceful at the house so my boys can have some calm. its so hard as when hes in a mood it affects work and the staff notice and are aware . he says its his business and he constanly dips into the "pot" taking money out of the business... i do not have control over the finance. he has even since a so;ictor to protect himself from me taking it away from him and let "our" business pay for it! he seems to hold all the cards. i do not have the funds to fight him as he controls my salary to.
he says he loves me, he will book up mini breaks for weekends away even when we are not talking? i just dont get it.

I think it is time for you to take some of the control back. The only person you can control is yourself and your actions. I agree with the other replies he is doing this to you to control you. But a great friend of mine here in the land down under said to me about my situation "if he was to come back how would that look like now he has done all this stuff?" I can't imagine him back. So after this line I took control. I packed up the house and took what I wanted. I asked him what he really wanted from inside the house and I have left them iin the cupboard. All of my things have been boxed. Is there anyway that you can leave your job and get a new job? Apply for something you want to do. Maybe study again. Start living girlfriend and we'll do this together all of us on the wiki site.