Where do I start

My Husband blurted out that he didn't want to be married to me anymore, about 5 months ago. If I'm honest, things hadn't been right for some time. He stopped wearing his wedding ring nearly a year ago and his behaviour towards me had changed.We have been together for 17 years and married for nearly 14years. We have a beautiful son who is 2 1/2 yrs and I'm heartbroken. His behaviour changed when our son came along. We'd tried for a family for nearly 13 years and our son was adopted Nov of 2008. I really thought it wa swhat he wanted but he wants to lead a single life now.
He's refused to attend mediation, refused to give me a divorce or to sell the house, so that I can move on. He's happy sleeping in the spare room. I'm not sleeping or eating properly and Iknow our son is confused. I don't know what to do next.

Hi LoyLoy,

Sorry that you are here!

And it does sounds as if your husband is being an ass and has many issues.

Do you love him? I ask as divorce is an Absolute nightmare imho.

I did see a very valid post some weeks back. If you love him and you both feel there might be a chance then you should propose counselling. If he does not agree then you will have to divorce him. It sounds harsh but you will need to drive this.

As far as getting him to leave the house is concerned I have no idea how that works - but I am sure that there are many here that can help.

You will get much advice and support here and do not feel scared to ask. We are all in this mess and trying to help each other out of it.

Before I bow out - clearly having your son has changed somoething. Is he prepared to find out why?