Anyone's view if they think the below is a fair?

This is what I think is fair to my wife, what do you guys think??

House worth £160,000
Equity £100,000

Starting point of 50 – 50 split; taking in to account you want to stay in the house with the kids 61 – 39 split. Equals £61,000 & £39,000

Pension £32,000, for splitting purposes the CETV calculations starting point is 25%, up to 50%, I am proposing this goes to 37%. Equals £11840.

The 39% of the house minus the 37% pension equates to £27,160

The actual support calculations via CSA equals £444 per month, I want to pay 167% of that which is £741.48

Endowment to carry on until mature and then split 50 – 50 costs per month each of £56.50

I would also leave you the next of kin on my pension (£32,000) and named in my death in service (£184,000) until you circumstances change, at which point I would make the kids the benefactors

Getting this drawn up you said £600; you can take that out of the joint account which has over £800

You to keep the contents of the house fixtures & fittings plus sofa, table, wardrobe, draws, chairs, desk, all white good, PC, printer, scanner, digital video, digital camera,sky+, shed, lock up, gardening items and all items that are yours.

I require obviously all my items and the surround sound

I also want you to drop your objections, refusal and blocking to me taking the kids on holiday to a destination of my choice.

Agree to unlimited access to them within reason, and when they are with me we can do what ever we want no limits

I'm not sure what to say about the finances; probably others better qualified will comment. However, negotiations about children need to be separated from negotiations about money. This reads to me as though you are saying 'I will be generous to you if you give me unlimited access to the kids withing reason and don't interfere with what we do when we are together'. This last may be reasonable, but the way you have written it makes it look as though the children are being used as a bargaining chip, and I would expect your wife to read it that way.

By the way, it is usually easier for the children to have contact with the non-resident parent at regular, pre-arranged, times, not on the ad hoc basis that your 'unlimited access' implies. Children usually like to know where they stand, and it is awkward for them if you turn up asking to see them and there is something else they want to do.

Sadie

Sadie as usual makes some good points and I would just add that defined contact tends to work best initially until everyone gets used to the new arrangements then when a routine is settled it should be possible for both parents to be flexible and work around the children. You and your wife might find this useful;-

www.nncc.org/Parent/visitdo.html

As far as the finances are concerned it's difficult to comment without knowing all the details relevant to s25 Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 - duration of the relationship, husband's and wife's ages, incomes to determine mortgage raising capabilities, number of children and their ages.

Sadie / Fiona thanks for the messages
How do I get to take my kids on holiday if she keeps putting these barriors in place? I made no objections to her taking them away, but she is blocking my time with them?

If your children are very young your wife might have a point. Perhaps family counselling offered by Relate in some areas might help. Although co-operative parenting is an ideal to aim for not many couples achieve it, or at least not all the time and have to settle for defined contact, allowing each other to parent to the best of their ability in 'their' time. What you need to try and do is avoid high conflict at all costs because the detrimental effects on the emotional well being of children is legendary. Another resource you might find useful for the basis for discussion is Time For Children at;

www.cafcass.gov.uk/publications/leaflets_for_adults.aspx