Intro

Hi. As per the forum advice, I thought I'd introduce myself and tell you a little about me.

Just a week short of my 29th wedding anniversary I received a summons to attend a child custody court hearing. Although my wife & I had separated over a year earlier (at her instigation)I'm afraid I was still in denial. I still loved her and was convinced that she didn't really mean it (she was suffering from severe depression then and for the 4 years prior to this).

To cut a long story short, I won custody of my 2 sons (then aged 13 - twins) and they live permanently with me. They rarely see their mother now as she has totally alienated them and everyone else who ever cared about her.

4 years on from that 1st court appearance I am still trying to finalise the divorce but it's dragging on primarily because of her lack of co-operation and, I suspect, her bitterness.

The above is just a very brief overview and I'm sure is little better or worse than most members of this forum have or are experiencing.

Thanks for taking the time to read this and I'll post again once I've had a little time to trawl the forum and see the lay of the land.

I really sympathise with you because I know how hard and frustrating it is when the other party is uncooperative.Hope everything goes well for you.

Thanks JK. I see you are a new member also. I've just read your post and although I'm unable to give you any constuctive advice I'm sure you will get lots of it here. What I can say however is that it is worth fighting for your children especially when you know that their lives will be the poorer without you as part of it.

Jouster,
Trust that you will keep your lance suitably lowered!
Welcome to Wikivorce. There are a lot of people here who have been through the mincer on child contact and a lot of experience, both practical and emotional, to help you on your way. I personally don't have such issues, but wanted to just say hi, and welcome. There are many who will have had experience of similar situations.

Best of luck and I hope you find the answers and support that you seek here.

Mike

Thanks Mike. I don't really have any issues re child contact as I have my kids living with me permanently. In fact looking after them is the only thing that has enabled me to get through this experience.

PS - I'm afraid my lance is getting a bit rusty.

Hi Jouster,

Hang on in there I am sure things will get better. This site is worth it's weight in gold.