Heartbroken

Hi There,

Is that really what you want, for him to come back?

Don't you deserve more than that ? I think you do take it from me they don't change, I lived like that for the past 28 years believed all the promises yes I was stupid for believing him,he left to go to work as normal ( he works Singapore) couple of weeks later I get a call to say he is not coming back he has met someone else (8 months ago).

I have 4 children, the house will be up for sale in a few days I have just signed a lease for a rented property.

I wont waste any more of my life on him.

Keeping busy helps I also have very bad days when it feels like I am in a black hole but I will climb out of it.

Keep posting and reading on here it will help you, and you will receive lots of support,encouragement and help through this horrible time.

((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

Kelly,

When your husband files for a Divorce, you have the opportunity to decide if you do (or don't) accept his Application. If you accept, you do have the right to say if/why you don't agree with his actual reasons.

It can be argued that because of the nature of your illness, the symptoms are a factor of that illness: ie: Mood swings (Bi-Polar perhaps?) But you don't need to argue this unless he starts some Order against you, (for instance if he wanted you rid from the home with an Occupation Order citing unreasonable behaviour) then you could ask your Doctor to write a report outlining the specific symptoms. Lots of couples seperate because of an inability to cope with their partners depression. Your relationship is a double-dose of it.

If you don't want to accept his 'reasons', you don't have to. He'll then have to wait for two years uncontested; or possibly five years seperation before he can Divoce without reasons.

Now, if you file, and he cross Petitions, you get a situation whereby both claims go in front of a Judge, this becomes a cross-petition and just means twice the fees!

If you're hoping for a miracle, a magic wand to make everything OK, but it's just not reality.(I understand this)but in all honesty, what's the point of protracted pain? If he doesn't want to be married anymore, then you can't force him.

You need to face your fears. I know you don't want to loose him, but sometimes you just have to accept you've done all you can, and walk away. Happiness is no longer in his direction.