Some advice please

Hi all, I am hoping that some of you may be able to offer me some advice.

My husband left me 6 weeks ago after only 8 months of marriage, I had my suspicions that he had been getting a bit too close to a woman who was on his college course but he alwasy denied it, now I have found/heard information that more or less confirms this!!

Anyway, I was intending on starting the divorce proceedings asap after we had been married for a year, and since he decided to end the marriage was going to apply that he pays all costs - fair enough I thought!

Anyway, I had a letter from his solicitor saying that as I had thrown him out (lie which I have proof of) that he would be filing for divorce asking me to pay all costs! Charming guy that he is!!!

Anyway, he already owes me money which he's refusing to pay back, he just wants the remainder of this belongings that he left behind and to go. I simply won't be able to afford the divorce costs on top of the other money I now have to find to cover the money I have lost.

Anyone got any knowledge of where I can go from here, it's all such a mess?!

Thanks in advance!

I'm afraid it seems to me that if each of you is talking about petitioning the other for divorce, then it's probably better to end it with the minimum of fuss and expense.

What causes most of the problems one encounters is not so much the divorce itself, but the financial matters ( ancillary relief ) and matters relating to the children, if there are any.

It's possible for applicants with a low income to get financial help with the fees - details can be had from your local court office.

Legal help may be available to assist applicants on a low income to present a petition. In that case the petition would be presented under your own name and an application for costs would be unusual. If you are paying privately, costs can be claimed for fault based divorces such as adultery but you have to consider the possibility that an application for costs can only get your husband rattled and put him in an obstructive frame of mind.

The subject of costs for ancillary relief applications is quite another matter and the general rule is that each party bears their own costs.

Mike