At the beginning of the a better time

A newbie popping on to say Hi

Quick Background
18 months ago STBX Hub had affair with work colleague after 10 years of marriage and 2 children. He left for 6 months, then talked me into trying again. Tried for 8 months and it didn't work for me, due to lack of trust, his contact with OW and his blaming me for his actions. Sold the family home to buy separate houses as he refused to move out when I had reached the decision that it was over. Then months of abuse and bitterness began.

Current situation
Have met a new man, am very happy, children coping well and loving my independence. STBX is bitter and twisted and constantly having a go because I won't change my mind. Can't afford a divorce at present because he won't consent and keeps changing the agreements we have made.
Just about learning how to ignore his constant emotional blackmail and bitterness and trying to get on with life.

Am here to share experiences, vent (no doubt) and get advice.

hi,
glad to hear you are contented with your new found freedom.
I am quite sure that you can divorce on the ground of unreasonable behaviour ,anything can be unreasonable if you do not want to live with the person,as I have found out .Do not let him take the joy out of your life
all the best.

Mine divoirce started ammicable... but then after a while.. when friends, family and solicitors get involved (damn viltures!) they have now egged her to get £20,000 out from me. Totally absurd as we were only married for 11 months, and we have no kids.

Be warned, solicitors sometime DO NOT look at morals or ethics. They are vultures, and prone on people going through divorce as sometimes we become an easy target..

I am still battling mine yet.... still a way to go :O(

Thank you both... feeling that mine will be a long long journey.