Hello, new member and a bit shocked to be here

Hi there, I am still a bit shocked to find that my wife of 10 years wants to divorce me, wants me to move out of our home but still support her as I do now.
The grounds are unreasonable behaviour, which as you know could be anything that she does not like about me if it seeme unreasonable to her. As far as I know she has no one waiting in the wings and I certainly don't have. It seems that she just wants a change, one that seems likely to harm our son and destroy us both financially too.
I am just trying to do the best in the situation and get out of it in a way that leaves us all able to continue our lives as best we can. Hopefully that will be possible with the support of a community like this. Thanks, "coping so far".

Hi Coping

Just replied to your financial query and felt compelled to answer this one also.

Just to let you know this site will offer you comfort. There are lots of people who are going, or have gone through the same experiences and i find it invaluable for support.

I'm sorry you find yourself in this position and you're quite right it is a very difficult situation that can leave a lot of lasting scars both emotionally and fnancially. All the advice i can offer is to try to go through this process as amiacably as possible. I have been unable to do this and it ultimately costs you in more ways than one. I understand that it's not always possible to do this but if there is any hope at all, try.

With regard to the divorce itself, your wife has to have a good reason for the divorce. You'll know more later.

This is a difficult time and the legal stuff is confusing at best but you'll soon become familiar. The resource centre on this website is very good and the people on the site include some solicitors and a lot of people who have dealt with the legal system and are very knowledgeable.

My very best wishes

DAD

Hi coping
Basically your right unreasonable behaviour can be anything because defending it isn't worth the cost. You can however agree to the divorce but not the reasons.
It will be tough in the beginning and you enter a whole new world of divorce speak and get to learn very fast!!!
Your life will be different but different can be good as well.
Keep posting you'll get loads of help on here and if you fancy some light relief in the evening come into the chat room. Serious discussions are also had there now and again!!!

I am very sorry specially for your son.If she wants to divorce there is nothing you can do,just make arrangement that is best for your son.It is very difficult some of us are driven by anger and others by saddness or bitterness but this is what get us through initially.With time you will feel better.But do not give i too much to her at the beginning hoping that she will come back because even if she does it will not last.Stand your ground but be resonable.
good luck