I'm so confused - 26 and heading for divorce!

Hi

I left my husband about 5 months ago, I feel like such a fraud on here though, I look at everyone else's problems and feel like I don't deserve to feel like I do.

It was my decision to split, my husband is practically perfect. He treats me well, works hard and is just generally a really nice guy - so why don't I want to be with him any more?!

We had been together since he was 17 and I was 18, now we are both 26 and I feel like I've lived my life the wrong way round.

I really wish I wanted to be with him, we still talk but he is having a really hard time with it. I thought I was OK but he phoned me last week to tell me he has been to a solicitor and I will be getting a letter about getting a divorce.

He's not nasty about it, he says it's the only way he can cope and move on and I suppose it is the right thing to do but I'm just so upset, it feels so final. I know it was my decision to split so I suppose I just have to deal with it!

We are still getting along well, he's my best friend and I miss him so much. Before we split we hadn't been arguing or anything - I guess we had just grown apart.

I wish things had worked out differently between us but I can't help the way I feel

Hello,
I went through the same route two years ago, and I must say, there are tmes I feel down and other times when I realise it is good it happened.
Try and make new friends, and talk to people around you, cos I tended to suffer in silence and now I find it so much better to cope/ deal with the situation, as I get advice and people cheer me up as well.
Divorce is a very horrible experience, and it will make you stronger.
However, one issue was that I felt confused when speaking to my ex, and smelling his perfume...I felt I wanted to get back to him, but then I put some distance in order to avoid confusion and attraction.

I do not say to you to do the same, but be careful when you see him or speak to him, cos you will be tempted or feel confused.

Good luck and let me know if I can help you.

Lea,
Do you really want to end the relationship? Have you considered couple counselling? Have you explored what you really feel/want? I am not expecting answers.......just pondering where you are with yourself.
Elle

Hi

Thanks for the responses.

I do wonder if I want to get back together but when I see him the feelings just aren't really there any more. We have decided not to see each other until it's all over because it confuses the situation. We still talk to each other though, he doesn't really have anyone else to talk to and he is going through a hard time at work.

Luckily, I have lots of friends and can keep myself busy but there are only a couple of people I feel like I can speak to about how I feel and no-one who has been in the same situation.

Hi Lea...
Everyone,s problems r there own and mean just as much to them...
I think maybe ur just bored and wondering wat u,ve done with ur life.....
Maybe u shpld go away together..it does,nt have to be anything expensive just a weekend somewhere....get out of the the stale enviroment..and give it a chance...cos i dont think u really know wat u want...so this could make it or break it...
Tc Lizann x