introduce myself and my dilemma

This is liqin, 26,new for this forum.
I am not married yet but I am experiencing a similar situation:I am wondering whether to break up with my current girlfriend.She is so nice and treat me very well.However we seem to have little common interest and have diffrent attitude toward some basic issue,actually we seem difficult to communicate on a common ground.
I can not decide now because I am not sure where this decision will bring me to.Maybe I am making a wrong decision and miss Mr.right. If we keep on going and get married,maybe we are doomed for divorce?It is tragic to face a doomed divorced marriage.
So if you have any good idea for me or have some interest to chat with this embarrased guy,please contact me or leave comments.

Hi Liqin

Welcome to Wikivorce.

Have you talked to your girlfriend about your concerns? Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Having little common interest isnt always a barrier, prehaps you could both find something that interests you both - even a new activity you could enjoy together?
As for the difference of opinions on basic issues,there is the old addage that "opposites attract", however, my own personal experience of that is that it doesnt always run smoothly! Some "basic issues" need to have both partners in agreement, like having children and how you will bring them up, the kind of lifestyle you want to lead, and indeed, if you both want to get married!
If you enter a marriage with the view that it will end in divorce, then you are getting married for all the wrong reasons. None of us here believed that our marriages would end in such a a way.
Only you can decide if this relationship is for you, only you can decide what is important to you within a relationship, and what you are able to give and receive from that relationship. I always say that if in doubt, do nowt - and whenyou do know what to do, act upon it.

Ruby

Thank you ,ruby .
your kind reply is quite helpful for me.
love deserve great patience ,time.But some couples seem to have harmonious marriage naturally.They arreciate each other from the very beginning and can have immense joy just for being together.I really envy that kind of couple.
I just wonder i need to improve my current relationship or try to find a better one. Both have risk.
Anyway, thank you for your reply.As an outdoorman of marriage, I am sorry that I have so many silly and irrealistic idea for marrige.I am just not confident for it.
Thank you.

HI again

Some couples are very fortunate and find their soulmate within each other, andhave the kind of marriage you describe. But for most couples, relationships take a great deal of hard work and compromise, on both sides.Respect for each other is of the upmost importance.
If you are not confident,as you say, about marriage, then maybeyou havesome doubts already as to whether this girl is the one you want to grow old with and spend the rest of your life with - but only you can answer that.

I wish you luck in whatever you decide.

Ruby