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Hi

I'm in the first stages of my second divorce. My solicitor has still to receive petition from my husband's lawyer.

I've agreed that he can divorce me citing my unreasonable behaviour and I won't contest his reasons.

Feeling totally grim, worthless and miserable. The marriage hasn't been happy for sometime but I still love my husband.

Soon to be

uxornomore

uxor,
Welcome to Wikivorce, home of the emotionally battered and bruised, champion of the Nisi and Absolute.

Sorry to hear your story so far. You must be feeling pretty dreadful about it all.

I am sure that you are not grim, worthless or normally miserable. Just desperately unhappy. There are lots of other people here who have been there and know how you feel. Love plays a nasty game with out emotions. Our head tells us things aren't right, but our heart wants to believe that they can be made right and will get better.

Looks like head is winning, but heart is putting up a damned good fight.

Hopefully you will find some comfort and support here. Try the chat room - gets a bit silly sometimes, but it is a great place to be, even if only as an observer.

Maybe try writing a blog about how you came to get here. Many have found it a great release to get it all out in the open and write it down. I find I can look back on what I wrote 6 months ago and see how far I have moved on emotionally.

Wishing you all the best on your journey, and a big virtual hug. See - you are not grim or worthless at all!

Mike

I completely understand where you're coming from... just about to begin my 2nd divorce myself.

Just hang in there, nice to see you joined the chat room. I joined this site about a month ago - some very nice people here and always loads of support on offer.

Good luck to you, and keep talking

Shez

I have found its a great place to get some good advice and support. Hope that you find it helpful and supportive and rant away if you need to

Big hugs

Thanks for all your replies.

I'm still trying to get past the depression & denial - I feel such a failure - this is my second divorce - I know I pinned such hopes on this relationship - now it's all up in smoke. Faults/mistakes on both sides. Still leaves me wondering how come I can't make a relationship work.

Then I woke up to the fact that during our 13 years I'd shed all my friends. It's the loneliness that I find terrifying. I've got a lot of rebuilding to do.

I know things are just about to get nasty - there's been no mention of finances - that's still to come. He has more money than me, can afford to drag it out. Meanwhile I'm supporting my son (previous marriage) at University as his father is a declared bankrupt!

I've been reading some of the blogs - leaves me wondering why we bother with relationships at all - so much sadness & hurt.

time is a great healer....

hope things get better for you.... and real soon.

Just hang on in there.. easier said than done I know.. as I know.. I myself went through.. and still am going through an expensive and messy divorce

chin up and good luck :O)