Dum dum dum....another one bites the dust...

Hi all,

Just wanted to introduce myself. My name's Christian and my wife and I have just seperated.

She broke the news to me 3 weeks ago. I was devistated. I still am. Should have seen it coming as we have been arguing a hell of a lot. We've only been married a year and have only lived together for 2 years, so thought it was just teething problems.

Thing is, when we argue, we're always at each others throats and shout at each other. Then we don't speak for a week.

Majority was my fault as I went through a stage of being insecure and got jealous, didn't trust her when she went out with her male friends for one on one dinner/cinema, I went over the top and didn't trust her. Shes quite a flirt and I never liked that. I was a bit nasty about it all though.

But I did get better and I thought recently things were going well, but it seems she was pushed too far.

So now I am grieving a lot. One minute I'm ok, the next I remember a time together and I get upset again.

I feel I'm a failure and that I'll never be happy again. I'm coming up to being 32 and feel that I'll never settle down and have kids etc.

So anyway, hope you welcome me to the gang!

Christian,

Firstly let me welcome you into the arms of the wiki family.

We all have our own stories to tell and I guess many of us would have done things differently if we knew where we would have ended up.

You have taken a big step in admitting that you had issues of jealousy etc.

Would your wife not consider couple counselling, such as Relate?

You are 32, but a youngster as far as being a dad is concerned, so don't throw that dream out of the window just yet.

Anyway, come join the family and find support and advice and friendship and realise that life is not all that bad really.

xx Sarah xx

Its good you are able to admit to your faults I wish my xtb could, though I probably wouldnt be on here if he did.

Dont blame yourself too much... I certainly would think twice if my ex was saying to me that she was going to a cinema and dinner dates with male "friends".

I do not have a dirty mind.some may think it is ok.. fair enough.. each to their own.. point is.. u r not alone when it came down to ex wife wanting these "dates" or how ever she dressed the occasion up.

Chin up mate. Dont be too hard on yourself.