Just joined

Hi everyone, well I'm just going through my second
divorce, didn't see it coming this time, after 17 years
was rather a shock. Anyway that happened 12 months ago and I received Decree Nisi today so not sure how I feel at the moment. I found this site by accident today just knowing so many of you are in the same situation helps.

Hi Poppie and welcome to wiki.
Oh yes loads of us out there and every story different . The one thing we have in common is we all need a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to bellow at.
There's always someone here and they're a great bunch of people.
Good luck and keep posting

hi Poppie, theres loads on here that you might find interesting, I have certainly learned alot in just a few days. Its great I don't feel so alone now.
cheers
M

Hi Poppie!

Just like the others I'd like to welcome you to the Wiki site.

This site has helped me loads, especially when I'm on my low days, I always like to go to the Chat Room. They are a great bunch of people on this site and they will help cheer you up. You can write any forum subject and you will always get a response. The main thing is if you have a question you will always get an answer from someone or everyone who has been through that point of the divorce.

I got my Decree Nisi last week, every step so far has upset me, because I wasn't the one who left. Plus he kept me thinking that he moved out to think for a while and then came back 2 months later and asked for a divorce. I couldn't believe it and sometimes now I still can't believe it. It felt like a never ending dream and that someone would wake me up. But they never did. The loneliness is really hard, I have my pet dog to keep me company and if he wasn't there I don't know what I would of done. It's been nearly 5 months since my stbx has left the marital home. We do communicate, but it isn't on a regular basis. He says he liked to stay friends after the divorce is over, but I'm not very sure at the moment, as I feel he is waiting for the divorce and sale of the marital home to go through and I don't think he'd call after that. He may prove me wrong, but I'm learning to get on with my life without him. It is hard, but I can't wait till 2008 is over.

That's my situation, I don't think I would ever get married again like you did. I think I would rather live with my Knight in Shining armour when he actually arrives on the scene. I think it would be easier, than going through this again.

This site is great Poppie, use it always as it helps you get over your low moments and when you're on a good day still pop on to the site as you could help others.

Good Luck
CrusaderGirl

Thanks for your replies everyone it helps.

I'm trying to stay positive for my son. My journey has been very emotional,I found out husband had been having affair with girl 27 years younger than him. It had been going on for 12 months before he finally admitted it. Those 12 months were the worst time not knowing what was wrong with him and him not talking, I felt like I was going mad. I honestly believe that he is going through a midlife crisis. At least when I finally found out it was a kind of release and I was able to understand and do something about it.

I know we all have different stories to tell but I'm sure the pain, anger and the loneliness we all feel is the same.

Poppie