separation

Hi All,

I'm John and although i am not going through a divorce (not legally married), but i am going through hell as my relationship has just come to an end after 14 years. i am 45 years old and i have never known pain like this before.
i am also in the uneviable position of being my ex-partners, business partner and this also is difficult to deal with.
we broke up 6 months ago and i guess that i am too blame for the failure. i took Debbie for granted and i have not been a very good partner to her in the last couple of years. i now deeply regret my failings and have tried to change in order to win her heart back. alas to no avail and have now resigned myself to the loss. we are putting our lovely home up for sale today and i am totally gutted. i am based near Manchester.

Hi John,
Welcome to Wikivorce. Home of the heartbroken and generally miserable. But not all the time.

Like yourself, I am also my soon to be ex wife's business partner and have to work with her nearly every day of the week. It is hard. The pain does get better though. It just takes time. It is that much harder because of the business relationship, but you need to make a judgement - can you work with her for long term? Will she work with you? If either is no, then it is time to start looking at disposing of yout interests in the business. Exactly what I am trying to do at the moment. I know how hard it is, because your judgement is clouded by guilt, resentment, love, hatred etc etc.

You will get there. THere is a great sense of community here at wikivorce and a lot of practical information and support - just ask.

Take care and be nice to yourself

Mike

stimo,sorry to hear about your problems,night out organised by wiki lot in manchester sat 7 june at trafford centre if you fancy being cheered up

Thanks Mike,

Please keep me informed on your progress. my situaion is not a straightforward 50-50 split, there are 3 of us (unfortunately) the third person is Debbie's best friend and who she is staying with at the moment. so my position is very vulnerable and i am frightened to death at what they will do!

Hi crazylady,

would love to get together and meet some similar people going through the same heartbreaking experience. do you have any details please?

Stimo

John,

Do you have any formal partnership agreement with your partner and other business partners? Have you taken any legal advice on the partnership position? Might be worth half an hour with a solicitor or an accountant to see what can and can't be done.

Mike

Hi John

Just wanted to add my welcome to those of others. It's an open invitation to join us next week for the Manchester meet, I've only been here a month myself and already this lovely (not-so-little) community is an important part of my week.

Feeling vulnerable and gutted is par for the course in separation John... you need some support and information. I agree with Mike, join us in the chat-room. There's often some fast talking in there so be prepared to jump in. In my early days I used to just sit quietly and read everyone's messages - helps you learn who's who

Whatever, you are welcome

Shez