Confused

Hi,

I am completely new to this having been told that I am surplus to requirements (I don't love you anymore).
My emotions are all over the place as I contemplate life on my own, or will it be me and the children.
I am trying hard not to be angry with my wife (no point).
It's funny how you never realised what was going on around you until it hits you - or is that a guy thing - I can see I am not very good at this.

Time to start planning I guess.

Hi DadsRus,
Welcome to WIkivorce, the home of the emotionally battered and bruised. I am sorry to hear how you are feeling. Been there, got the t-shirt. It's awful. What did I do? What didn't I do? Should I? Could I? Is there someone else? What am I going to do? What about? What if? When?
Zillions of questions and no answers and an emotional stew bubbling in your head. Deep lows. Despair. Anger. Resentment. Hurt.

You have come to the right place. Wikivorce is full of other people just like you. Lots of helpful advice and support through one of the most challenging times of your life.

The chatroom is a good place to vent your spleen, or look for a shoulder to cry on - gets a bit silly sometimes, but that is just people being themselves in an environment where they feel safe and part of a community.

Best of luck with it all. Ask for help. Maybe write a blog - it feels really good to get the negativity out and you feel a lot better for doing it.

Take care, and be nice to yourself.

Mike

Funny how you stumble upon something. When you feel you are so alone and your world has collapsed around you, you click a button and even though it doesn't make things any easier you realise that there are many people suffering just like you. What happened?

Greenmile,
Look at the user count on the front page - Wikivorce just had it's first birthday in March. What does that tell about being alone in this mess?

Lots of out there, but here we can help each other through this time. Best of luck with your own situation

Mike

It is hard, you will also find lots of valuable advice on this site. And the members are wonderful (not talking about myself here of course).

This is the new start you did not ask for or want. Only option is to grab it and make the best of it. It is a bit of a rollercoaster ride. As soon as u feel up to it suggest you get some legal advice so you are put in the picture.

As Mike says the chat room is very friendly and we all understand the lows u can go through.

You also need to be very kind to yourself.

If this site proves anything it is that bad stuff happens to good people.

We are all there for you.

Shelia