First Post - terrified!

Hi,
We've been married for 8 yrs & after 3 years of threatening, I have finally had enough & am about to file for divorce.
A lot of unpleasant history, caused, I think because I just can't be the person he wants me to be and vice versa. So, very sad but has to be done. I think he has finally come to terms that it really is going to happen this time. It's amicable at the moment.
I've consulted a solicitor & we're going with a 2 year separation with nominal lump sum. The lump sum will come from me despite the fact that he brought nothing financial to the marriage, we live in the house that I bought, and I have paid for everything - even though he has earned more than me for the past 3 years. Yes, I'm bitter but I'll have to live with that...
So the future is uncertain & I'm terrified of having to start all over again at the age of 47. I should be grateful there aren't any children - but that's another sore point!
We're attempting a DIY divorce & hoping this community will help me through that.

Hi Cazzer - welcome to Wikivorce - you are in the right place for support, so don't be terrified!

So sorry that you have found yourself in this situation, but you are not alone and we will help you deal with it.

I can identify with quite a lot of what you post in terms of the financials - have a look at my blog and see if there is anything there that rings any bells!

Best of luck with keeping it amicable, that would be so much more constructive than letting it descend into arguments and bitterness.

The thought of starting again is terrifying, isn't it? But there are plenty of people here who are going on that journey with you and we will all get there eventually. Happiness and new opportunities are waiting for us all!

All the best

Pundit