I'm new and feeling stuck

I'm new and feeling stuck....in all senses of the word. I've never used an internet forum of any kind before..I don't even know what any of the icons mean.... I've been married for over 20 years... together for 25. Have 2 kids. And I just don't know how to get this started. I announced 6 months ago that I wanted it to end, and have been sleeping in the lounge for months now.
My problem is, I am the main breadwinner. He's working now, ( for the first time in years) but I don't know how he could keep himself..... I may not want to be married to him, but I don't think I want him on the streets either. How do you organise splitting up? It feels like a mountain. I still feel in gridlock, as I have done many times over the years.. ( it's not the first time I've been the breadwinner) I'm just low at the moment... I know I will sort it out finally... I just thought I'd see if there were people with whom I could share some of these difficult emotions. It feels as if my life has got stuck...

Hello Gridlock,
I'm sure writing down how you feel was probably one of the hardest things you've had to do.It takes a lot to make that first move so well done.
Like you I didn't know one icon from another and had never written a post online before but hey,that doesn't matter.we learn as we go along.if we make mistakes ..so what.
I too had a long marriage,over 30 years but also had to end it.similar thoughts and worries so you're not alone.many many people on here have experienced all sorts but they will all help with advice ,moral support.etc.
If you need more financial type help you'll need to put some information down and then you'll get advice on where to go what to do etc.
write down whatever you want to say.I felt better because I was able to actually tell someone how I felt, it eases the burden a little because you've shared it with someone else.so keep writing and help and advice will follow.

Gridlock,

Welcome to Wiki. You are not on your own in this any more.
If there is anything you don't understand just ask, if you want to let off steam, then do ... and you have already found chat where you can have a giggle - or ask serious questions.

You obviously feel very responsible for this man but he is a grown up.

You say you have kids - how old are they?

It may be a real help for you to have a long hard look at the finances and work out where you - and he - do stand money-wise. You'll find lots of people on here to give you support and advice on the finances .. and all the other stuff too.

Your life has been stuck - but it sounds to me like you are about to unstick it.

Good luck.

Hadenoughnow

hi grid

welcome to wiki

serious house, fun house, mad house, caring house....something for everyone going through the rubbish times that we are !!

remember you are not alone and use this site to help you pull through the bad times and dont forget to share the good times !!

see you in chat maybe..

Daisy
xx