New here-need help... divorcing an alcoholic

Hi
I am getting ready to ask my husband to move out. He recently admitted to a drinking problem, but is not being very proactive on doing anything about it. Besides the drinking problem he demonstrates a lot of narcissisitc behaviors. We have 2 young children. My husband is very irresponsible, and I do not trust him with our children. There is no physical abuse, just a complete lack of responsibility for anything. He is a functional drunk, and people who don't know him wouldn't know he is drunk. Though he did recently go to our children's therapy session drunk, and when he passed out in her office she asked me if she smelled alcohol on him. I have a lot of fear of tthe court system giving him any visitation that is not supervised. As with most addicts, he is an incredible liar and manipulator.
Any help is appreciated.
Thanks

Amaya,

Welcome to Wiki. Several of us here have similar experiences. Dealing with an alcoholic can be very troubling especially where children are involved.
Like yours my stbx was/is an alcoholic with definite narcissistic tendences. I wonder what comes first? Have a search on the site for the recent discussions we have had on this subject - there were some links to websites giving research about the effcts on children etc that you may find useful. If you just type in alcoholic in the search box that should do it.
It is hard to know how to advise you but my suggestion would be to keep some sort of a diary and hold on to every piece of hard evidence you can. When it comes to things like visitation rights etc I would hope you could ask for medical reports - is he on any medication apart from booze? - and maybe an assessment if needs be. In my case my stbx has had little or no contact with the children for several years - which actually makes things easier although I am sad for them. He appears to have become enitrely self absorbed and seems to feel his needs and wants should take priority over everything else.
You say you have not been subject to physical abuse - but don't forget, manipulative behaviour can be abuse too - you just don't see the bruises. It took a counsellor to make me realise how long the children and I had been manipulated by my stbx. He is still tryingit by draggig me through the courts at huges expense - but fingers crossed it will all be over soon.
I hope for your sake he does agree to leave and does not insist on staying in the house. Has he somewhere to go? Is there enough cash between you to provide him with a place to live without uprooting the children?

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