3 months since he left - 3 days on Wiki!!

Hi
A few days ago I was looking up divorce on Google and found this site. Never been on a blog or "chat room" so who says life has nothing new to offer since seperation!!
My story - Married 10 years - together 12. 2 kids 7 and 9.
Marriage was not great but guddled along. thot i would be there "till death us do" even with its faults.
One day (Valentines day !) he said he was not happy and what would I do to fix it!!
1 week later - he was going. He told the kids and left on Good Friday (irony at its best). 3 weeks after that he bought a new house.
On night he was leaving found out that he had phoned "someone" he said at first he had an affair for 3 yrs then denied, then said it was someone to talk to, but (and I quote) "Do I fancy her-YES, Will I ask her out - YES and do I hope she says yes -YES) Nice Huh?? When I got upset - I was being dramatic and damaging the kids.
Thru counselling and a bit of clarity - I came to realise that his anger etc (and I kept hearing from others what they really thot and witnessed) was a form of abuse, berbal abuse.
to cut an already long story short - am getting thru, slowly and with the support of family and friends (and hopefully any new ones from Wiki)
I have repied to a couple of blogs, and witnessed huge amounts of support. One of the things I have noticed is that although the details of everyones stories vary there are so many common threads. eg - fear, rejection, lonliness, guilt, a recognition, and how many people are in this position and can support and offer advice.
I have loads to work thru still (he thinks he doesnt!!) but am really glad to have found this website.
Please get in touch if you wish!! Jo14x

Hi Jo,

i am unfortunately in same boat as you. Husband having affair, found out xmas, took him back twice (big mistake) im totally confused now as he says he is not with her anymore , he loves me and kids, wants to come back says I should give him another chance but he has been so cruel whilst away I cannot see anyway I can forgive him and yet in a way im jealous of his freedom, im jealous of her she is half his age and mine i feel so rejected and betrayed (to be honest I feel so much pain I hardly know what I feel anymore

Hi Jo and welcome to wiki
Hope you find some help and support here I know I have and I am so glad I found this site.

Difficult times and more ahead but it’s a start when you ask for help and we are all here for you if you need us.

I send you a big hug and hope you are ok if you want someone to talk to then send me a PM I understand where you are coming from and the pain you are going through.

Take care of your self and your children.

Jude x

Hi Jo
Like for you..Good Friday will never be the same for me. Until then I thought of it in terms of crucification, today I see the long walk with a cross on your shoulder and being spat on. If I have to choose a favorite smiley it would be this one..

I recommend the book " Crazy times" by Abigail Trafford and you will realize that its perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling.
((((Hugs)))))

Hi Jo

I'm glad you found us - there is a lot of suport here for you. I think just realising that you're not the only one going thru this is a massive help in itself. There are a lot of people here who can empathise and relate to your experiences as well as offer advice where appropriate.

pop into the chat room too if you haven't already

Take care

Sun
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