\"I'm So Fortunate\"......

Hi everyone, I really do class myself as being very fortunate in the fact that my upcoming Divorce is amicable and straight forward, my heart goes out to the ones suffering heartbreaking Divorces (((HUGS))to you......My story began after the death of my first husband of 26yr, I suppose I was in panic, fear of being alone, I went into one bad relationship after another, then I met Mike, and in a nutshell I married him for all the wrong reasons and we had a dreadful time living under the same roof, he was, lets say, "hard work", highly strung, was like living with a time bomb, I'm the opposite, I'm not saying it was all his fault, I had my faults too, and many upsets at the time with my grown up children (my Son had bad accident at work, daughter sepparated from long term partner..etc) so this put a terrible strain on our already bad relationship, so we sepparated 2 yrs ago after 5yrs married, but we remained friends,it was easier not being under the same roof, at first he was adamant he did'nt want a divorce, I feel it was the stigma of having notched up three divorces, he couldn't cope with the thought of it, so I went along with that as I was in no hurry to "go out there" looking for someone new, I felt it was time for me to finally be on my own for the first time ever and find myself, and now I am a much stronger person, I have joined the gym (after much badgering of my gym instsucter daughter...lol) but it's the best thing I have ever done, I've lost nearly 2 stone, but have more to loose yet, but at last I feel content, the reason we have finally decided to go ahead and divorce is that he has met someone else and I truly am pleased for him as he did find being on his own difficult, so here I am, just starting our divorce procceedings and I found this site through my search on the legalities of divorce and I'm sure I will find the help and info from amongst you lovely caring people
Abi 2 xxx

Hi Abi,

Your post is like a breath of fresh air, it is so nice to see posts from people who have managed to keep things amicable, it is very rare nowadays.

I am so pleased you have found your strength and now lead a fulfilling life on your own.
loneliness is something everyone here has had to cope with and at times have found it difficult to believe they have the strength within them to deal with it.

Well done for joining the gym and kick starting your new life in such a positive way, you and your family must be very proud.

Keep going strong and remember we are always here if you need us.

kindest regards
Dawn x

Thank you so much Dawn for that, I did worry that I sounded a bit condecending...if thats the right word but far from it, I truly feel for those really suffering from nasty divorces, I've seen it through my family members, it's heartbreaking, I do still have my little moments of lonliness, I have just learned to accept this and it goes away very quickly, I fill my life with my family and doing my own thing, once again, thanks Dawn for saying those lovely things, it means a lot

Abi 2 xxx

Hi Abi
Great to hear another story!
I think yours is amicable because you separated first and then divorced. So Divorce has lost its sting. Quite a few people here are divorced long before they are mentally separated and this is hell.

BTW..great grandchild you got